Facebook profile picture - what would you think?

[faffalotty]

Just after some opinions on a situation.

Scenario - woman on Facebook, profile pics and cover photos are always just her or her and her kids. She then changes her profile picture to a smiling selfie of her and a man. What would you think?

From another perspective - you know the man in the photo and know he's separating from his wife. What would you think then?

[faffalotty]

He has agreed to the divorce. I am within the time limits as it is calculated from when you found out, not when it happened - you can't live together for more than 6 months from discovery.

Our kids are teens so we are letting them decide when they see him but will live with me mostly.

He's coming and going as he is sofa surfing and doesn't always have anywhere to go

[3weeksthankgod]

It's still adultery with the present woman as you are separated but still legally married (didn't know that until I separated and met someone.)

[faffalotty]

Yeah but he says nothing has happened, so couldn't cite that in the divorce

I am also concerned, probably unnecessarily, that our kids could see the photo. Not that they are fb friends. They don't know what's gone on.

[HuskyLover1]

He's treating you as though you are stupid : they are on FB posing as a couple, FGS.

Take his key off him and tell him if he has nowhere to sleep one night, then he should go to her house. End of.

[OurBlanche]

Well, as she has 'gone public' you can kick him out, he has somewhere else to go...

And if your kids do see the picture you can only have one answer: Your dad has found another woman to love but he is still your dad and loves you.

As for not being able to use it in the divorce, screenshot it anyway... you never know!

And good luck getting rid of him

[CannotEvenDeal]

I've seen this as an outsider and a pp is right.

They look like a pair of dickheads.

Good luck

[KittyKrap]

Yep screen shot with a date if possible. What a pair of utter cocks.

[Msqueen33]

Where did common decency go? Regardless or whether it was an affair or not you think she'd actually wait until you know he wasn't still living with his wife. But I would say affair. Sorry you're having to go through it.

[excessiveparanoidNNchanger]

Kick the fucker out!

[alphabook]

I would say if she's putting up profile pictures of the 2 of them he can go and stay with her and get out of your house.

[faffalotty]

The photo is them out cycling - so could be worse, it's not a romantic situation. That's how he met her - cycling.

He said the photo isn't recent, was taken last summer. Not sure that makes it any better

[CannotEvenDeal]

I think that makes it worse

[i8sum314]

Everybody will be thinking he is a shabby fucking fast moving cheater and she is an insecure/smug insensitive article.

[HappyJanuary]

It makes him look like an adulterous twat,and her look like a desperate woman willing - for some unfathomable reason - to celebrate her tawdry little relationship with an adulterous twat.

Two reasons she's put it on - 'look everyone, I'm in a relationship' and 'look faffalotty, he's mine now'. Everyone will be laughing at her. Just awful.

[NickiFury]

My goodness what a pair of twats aren't they? I would really look down on a friend that did this. Stop doing anything related to his well being in the home and know that everyone will find this shocking and disgusting behaviour.

[Cheerybigbottom]

I'm sorry they have been lying to you, she's obviously decided to go public do you should do the same. Tell the world you are divorcing him for adultery (oh and not even the new one, he'll never change) and make official plans. He can't come & go as he pleases. Cheery bye cheating ex!

[i8sum314]

Change yours to a phoenix or something.
or gwen stefani
or joan of arc.
im joking.

But honestly, nobody will be envying her her relationship with a man who still lives with his wife.

[Mycraneisfixed]

You're separated and getting divorced. They are an item. Your children probably already know and if not you need to tell them. Everybody needs to be clear what is happening and you need to get things sorted so he's no longer 'sofa surfing' at the family home.

[Cabrinha]

Stop the sofa surfing. Tell him straight - that her rubbing your nose in it has made it intolerable to put up with his shitbag face turning up. But that at least you know he can stay with her. Even if she's "just a friend" - well, friends can put friends up, right?

Let him feel the discomfort and although you should rise above it, you may as well feel a little smug that ending his sofa option at yours may lead to their first little row. 😈

[CannotEvenDeal]

nobody will be envying her her relationship with a man who still lives with his wife.

This

Twats

[SandyPantz]

why aren't you being honest with the teens? I bet they know or at least have some inkling

[Cavogirl]

Well, one good thing is you have some evidence that they are together.
I can't think of anyone I know who has a pic of them and someone of the opposite sex that they are not in a relationship with as their profile pic.
I'm so sorry you had to see this. I found out about a cheater recently and I thought the pain/rage would kill me.

Be firm with him, it's disrespectful. Whatever he says. You deserve much better than this.

[CannotEvenDeal]

I can't think of anyone I know who has a pic of them and someone of the opposite sex that they are not in a relationship with as their profile pic.

Off topic but I have done this with my very openly gay best friend

[Cavogirl]

Cannotevendeal- I nearly put that as an exclusion!! Kind of proves the theory too! Love a GBF pic x