Friend sh*gging married men

[georgethecat]

A friend goes to weekend themed gatherings/festivals.

She has returned laughing about having ONS with a married guy a couple of weeks ago and then last week a different guy. In both cases their wives were at home looking after the kids.

I have a childhood listening to DM crying regarding DF repeated affairs so I am particularly sensitive about it.

The first week I said - didn't you think about his wife? She stated his marriage wasn't her responsibility.

Second week, second guy - I'm more fucked off. She justified it by saying that she asked him if he wanted to change his mind. He didn't but 'bless him' felt guilty the next day. She says I will feel differently about sex when I get older(!)

Yes these guys are twats, goes without saying but I'm raging at her for her attitude towards these women.

I was supposed to see her today & I just can't

I agree smith almost everyone else. I couldn't be friends with someone like this. Yes of course the man is totally, totally wrong but she is still doing something horrible. It shows a real lack of empathy to me.

I'm also single (3yrs) so I wasn't judging her from a smugly attached position. I also know that life can be lonely but there is no way I'd do this.

I can sometimes understand if people genuinely fall in love but this seems more about possession and revelling in the challenge. She finds plenty of single people too, so why not stick to them?

I actually have distanced myself from two friends, say X and Y who are perfectly fine, but because they are close to a woman (Z) who threw herself at my DP shortly after our baby was born. Z woman had no remorse, found it all very funny, and DP was going through a wobbly phase with me and they had a few 'chats' where DP refused sex, but did admit he was unhappy with me at the time.

I felt so betrayed that I actually can't hang around with friends X and Y anymore, and now realise that they are not as close as I thought they were. This is partly because I cannot stand being anywhere near the 'husband stealing' Z.

However I also feel betrayed that my friends X and Y, who continued to be openly welcoming of Z in our social circle, despite me telling them once what she had done in tears. This also makes Z feel like she hasn't really done anything wrong. If X and Y were a little less welcoming, it would have made my life a lot easier and I could have continued to be a friend.

My sister is like this we no longer speak she tried to break up my relationship with my first child's dad when I was eight months pregnant hinted something could have happened between them then when I was due to marry my ex husband lo and behold she did it again screaming down the phone at me she could have had him I uninvited her and was pissed as hell at my moms reaction she said well perhaps I should step aside and let them get together apparently I'm selfish for saying no to that