Hi guys,
I need some advice as i'm in a little pickle.
Basically i'll try and keep this fairly long story short and stick to the key facts in order to not bore people when reading this!
So....there's this girl at my work place, this girl is beautiful, she is everything i'd look for in a girl and more. Obviously there's more to a relationship than just looks but over the past i'd say a year, maybe less, we've been very close. Close in they that we're always talking to each other in work (like for example in the work kitchen) or by the works instant messanger service thing. It's got to the point where colleagues see us both in the kitchen and often mention that we look great together! This even happened on Tuesday when a lady who we both work with pulled the girl i like to one side in the office and said "when should i buy the hat for the wedding!?". She carried on by telling her that we would make a great couple as there's so much chemistry!
You might be thinking that i'm in the 'friend zone' but honestly there's something there. For example she's a very forward and confident girl (pretty girls tend to have this) but she said the other day that with me she feels shy and all school girl like and that i'm the only person she knows who she feels like that with. Also EVERYTIME she walks passed my office (this actually just happened. Edit - twice!) she looks at me without fail (you have to turn your head a full 90 degrees to look at me).
Now you're probably thinking "well....what's your problem, you like her and it sounds like she likes you..." but there's a huge spanner in the works...
She has a partner. Yes bad news....even more so now that they've just bought a place to live together. It's hard to dress that up into anything positive for me but recently she had to move out of her parents house as they were moving abroad....She was then given money by her parents as a leaving gift in order for her to have her on place. The issue being that they didn't give her enough for her to buy her own place....and this is where the BF comes in. He's invested in the new place also otherwise she'd be homeless. Now i'm not her to slag the BF off, i'm also not going to comment and say "Oh she's not happy with him, she should be with me etc etc". I know they have issues and they're trying to work through them.
So obviously i'm here thinking what if and in a way, i wish i was that guy because i just have that feeling me and her would be great together due to everything i've mentioned and the fact we have so much in common.
I'll add and this which will reflect badly on us, we've been out a few times this year and we've ended up kissing. Obviously we could have a full blown affair but that's obviously not good for either of us in the long run or the BF. Now we try not to go out together as is could end up in a way which we'd regret.
There's actually another girl in the office who's a lovely, sweet girl who I went on a date with a few weeks back and the other girl was not happy what so ever. She thinks it's unfair for me date someone under her nose in work....i said it has nothing to do with her!
So as you can see...there's something there! I just feel like there's literally nothing i can do at the moment, i think the world of her but i just can't have her....well in the way that i want. How would you guys deal with this situation? Would you try and move on (something i'm struggling to do)?, do you carry on as things stand and wait and see what happens with her relationship? Or do you stop all communication as it could end in tears.
Help....please! : -/