Really don't know where to start so it's all going to spill out. Dh has got friendly with a woman. He acts completely different when in front of her with dc's etc. Doing her favours, arranging trips for all of us together.
I have been telling him for the last few weeks that I am taking them to a particular place. Anyway today when I was at work he text me to tell me that this friend is taking the dc's somewhere with her dc's. I asked all day where and he kept saying he didn't know. Must have asked 5 times throughout the day up until I was leaving work. I com home to find that he has let her take them where I was planning to to take them next week. We were really looking forward to it.
He claims he didn't know I was taking them. He claims he really didn't know she was taking them there till the last minute.
He had an affair a couple of years ago. I thought I'd got past this loss of trust. But I haven't.
I feel now like I felt then when I suspected the affair.
He seems to have boundary issues with women. I think this stems from his excuse of a mother.
I feel useless, worthless and pushed aside. I feel like I am sharing my children.
Due to what happened in the past (an apparent one off) and how I feel now. I feel I am clearly not enough. Like when ever he strikes up a friendship with a woman I mean nothing.
I've been thinking of the logistics of leaving him the last few days and especially today as I am livid he obviously deceived me and went behind my back today the way he did. We have a mortgage and the dc's are still quite young. I'm financially dependant on him although I paid the hefty deposit on the house. It will be messy it won't be pleasant. It never is I know.
I don't know what to do. I'm so upset with the whole situation.