Is this a red flag?

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I went on a date yesterday with a man I've been dating for a few weeks.

He told me we were going on a walk. I was really looking forward to it and was dressed appropriately with boots etc.

The walk turned out to be a hike along a high river cliff which was completely overgrown. At points I was having to practically crawl under trees and cling on to the grass so as not to fall over the cliff. Although I admit I'm not great with heights. I was genuinely scared.

He took a bit of a huff that I was struggling and walked on ahead not speaking to me. When I asked why he couldn't have helped me out a bit instead of walking off (at some points I actually couldn't see him) he said there was no point, as if he helped me we would both grind to a halt and his way, at least one of us kept moving. He also said I needed to find my own way.

I'm a bit . I'm meant to be seeing him again on Friday. I suggested going out for a meal but he said we could get a takeaway instead. Should I ditch him now before it gets worse or am I over-reacting?

Oh Dear God, don't see him Friday, no way are you over reacting.
What a dick.

OMG - are you dating my ex??!! This is exactly what he was like. I remember one walk, up a very steep hill, when I just couldn't keep up with him. Every now and then he would wait for a couple of minutes but as soon as I almost caught up he would stomp off again. I looked round and saw other couples walking together, chatting and laughing, and felt quite upset. When I asked him to wait he got into a massive sulk and then insisted on walking several steps behind me for the rest of the walk, presumably to punish me for having the temerity to complain.
After a few minutes of this I told him to fottfsof.
It was a lovely walk.
Also - tight and extremely controlling!!
I would say get rid - seems to have very little concern for your feelings.

This is not a red flag it just means he will be an uncaring partner or is just not that into you. Get rid.

I was always taught that you walk at the pace of the slowest in the group (even if the groom is just two.) Also, in those circumstances, where someone is scared, I would want to give them moral support and in a new relationship, it's another excuse to hold hands. It's a situation for understanding and support, not getting huffy.

I don't think I'don't bother seeing him again.

Ditch.

I'd say that's definitely a red flag. If he won't even help you when you're struggling in the early days - would he help you in the future if you're struggling with anything (say being pregnant and need a hand with something, or you're old lady and need a hand to hold). To me, it'd be a deal breaker, at least this early on.

ha - are you dating my ex? What is the one of us has to keep moving shite - is he in the army out on exercise. Run for the hills - but without him this time ;)

😂😂😂😂 sorry but you will laugh at how shit this date was one day.

He is a wanker.

Plenty more fish in the sea!

I don't know about red flags...but I would ditch.

Thanks everyone. I am still aghast at how he thought it was acceptable to take me on a Bear Grylls-esque challenge through the woods.

Hopefully, amusement will follow my current bemusement!

So you are dumping him, right..?

Why didn't you just say 'no, this is inappropriate,' and turn round and come home?

Agree with the others. Dump him!

He sounds like a cockwomble - get rid!

Takeaway = sex.

Yes, I don't think I will be seeing him
again somehow.....

I did cut the walk short when he suggested that to get to the next stage we either needed to walk up an almost vertical hill or hug the cliffs on the river bank. I had a bit of a meltdown at that point.

sounds like a bloody nightmare

That's not a walk that's an endurance exercise! Definitely dump this loser!

He told me we were going on a walk.

Told. Not asked, not agreed between us.

He sounds controlling and uncaring. I'm amazed that he ever gets a second date.

Cancel Friday, tell him why and then come back and tell us how he took it. >Offers round popcorn<

Yes tell him in great detail exactly why you don't want to see him again. Men like this are too dim to realise this behaviour is unacceptable! Was he in the army or something?

Just read your update op - he sounds like a proper dick! You had a Lucy escape!!

Do come back and tell us how you told him to knob off

I think you can chalk this git up to experience!

what a dick

Red flag.

At best he's insensitive and selfish.

At worst, he's emotionally-abusive. It sounds like its his way or the highway.

I wouldn't take this any further.

Takeaway eh? Eating it where? At your house? His?

Maybe on a clifftop, eh?

Fuck that for a game of soldiers. Dick. Next!

No, that's not right. I've been on walks with ex-h and taken pictures of his back in the distance in front where you couldn't tell if it was him.
On our first date out he drove me to a remote restaurant (which was a lovely location) and walk but I realise now meant I had no control over going home (and I needed to get back to my young son). This was a huge sign I missed of his control which then escalated.