To think this is rude?

[MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife]

Asked out on a date and trying to arrange when, we both have kids and it's a mission. We met on OD but are old friends from school, it's all been a bit stop-start but technically this would be our first official date. He was (I thought) genuinely interested?!

I suggested Monday just gone this weekend; he misunderstood and thought I was talking about the week ahead, which he can't do as his weekend with the dc.

No problem said I - let's do Monday as in tomorrow (this was on Sunday afternoon); I do know it's short notice though so of course no problem if not.

His reply, "Tomorrow's Monday?"

This is rude isn't it!! I have just left it. Bloody men.

[LovePGtipsMonkey]

maybe ask him, OP
'Are we actually dating or not?'
I couldn't be bothered with that either!

[MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife]

Thanks. To be honest I found it rude at first as I misunderstood it bit understand now I got the wrong tone. I do think he's into me, as he has said as much, and got in contact after a v long while, i just think we're probably badly suited. I couldn't be doing with someone who can't make basic arrangements and needs (wants?) me to chivvy them along I have kids already

LovePG - I would do that, thanks, but to be honest I think I'll just leave it now. I replied earlier today actually saying "haha yes that was what I meant! No worries though, enjoy your hol", ball in his court now I think. I don't think he'll reply. I'm fed up of it tbh

[LovePGtipsMonkey]

I'd say most women would that a bad match ha! Maybe once in long while meet-ups is his normal mode - who wants to wait for when a man's mood strikes him (once in a blue moon)!

[MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife]

He's messaged back - aaaand we're back to square one!

Turns out he did mean it the stupid/sarcastic way. Ffs.

"Thanks! I've lost track of time since starting new job! When do you go on hol again?"

I've told him, in the same conversation - he can literally scroll up and see it

This is annoying

[Muzzcub]

Oh just knock it on the head Op. Too flaky and vague!

[MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife]

I will, time to stop replying! Or one last message and be done with it? This is so frustrating. I feel like he won't change...

[Muzzcub]

You're right, he won't change.

Hmm.. maybe just don't reply or is that a bit bad...

[MyKingdomForBrie]

It sounds like he just has a different conversational style. An annoying one obvs!

He could be avoiding the question though.

Also might be chatting to multiple women which would explain forgetfulness of details - he's forgotten that he asked hence not scrolling up, because he's having multiple similar conversations. Just a theory..

[MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife]

I feel like I have been so nice to him and humoured him in every other message only to get shitty responses like the above back! Why do I do this? Does he just want a sodding pen pal

[MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife]

I'm having/have had other conversations though and I still remember!

[MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife]

I'm not sure how compatible our "different conversational styles" are...

I essentially asked him on a date and his response boiled down to ah yes thanks for reminding me about the day, when do you go on holiday again? At least make up an excuse!!

[Muzzcub]

Yep. And this is all before the first date! So much annoyance before its even begun!

Remove yourself from the situation.

[Nospringflower]

I couldn't stand this type of response! Ditch him!

[TheSilveryPussycat]

And this is all by text/message?

[MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife]

We have met in the past obviously but yes, this little saga is all by message...

[BubblingUp]

He's too much work! Blah.

[teraculum29]

Op i see your point, and his responses are annoying a bit.

But maybe he's not very good at texting? or he doesn't like it?

[Liz09]

To me it sounds like he was clarifying that you were asking about tomorrow's Monday and not next week's Monday, or whatever other Monday. Nothing rude at all.

[nuttymango]

Maybe he was trying to say I don't like Mondays (with you)

[Hellothereitsme]

Give up with him now. Too much hard work. Good luck .

[Amelie10]

You both sound hard work and incompatible. Just move on.

[MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife]

I really don't think I'm hard work actually.

As I say, his later response showed that he was asking "oh is tomorrow actually Monday then?!" - clearly some silly attempt at buying time.

I don't know whether to reply or just ignore and cut losses...

[TheSilveryPussycat]

Ring him up? On the phone, misunderstandings that may arise are easier to resolve then and there. People think text is unambiguous - but it's so often not...

[Horehound]

But when you said "this Monday?" did he think you meant tomorrow Monday. So when he said no he has the kids and then you said tomorrow Monday he is thinking er I just told you have the kids?

Anyhoo fuck all that. He is an idiot re. the holiday comment or he has deleted your messages and what does that tell you?

Move on.

[StillDrSethHazlittMD]

Are you both 14? Seriously, this is all coming across as stupid teenage nonsense. Bring back the days when people actually picked up their phone and, you know, talked to people to arrange dates. Made life SO much easier.