To think this is rude?

[MamaSaysItsAHardKnockLife]

Asked out on a date and trying to arrange when, we both have kids and it's a mission. We met on OD but are old friends from school, it's all been a bit stop-start but technically this would be our first official date. He was (I thought) genuinely interested?!

I suggested Monday just gone this weekend; he misunderstood and thought I was talking about the week ahead, which he can't do as his weekend with the dc.

No problem said I - let's do Monday as in tomorrow (this was on Sunday afternoon); I do know it's short notice though so of course no problem if not.

His reply, "Tomorrow's Monday?"

This is rude isn't it!! I have just left it. Bloody men.

I think he meant do you mean the Monday belonging to Tomorrow.

but OP already said in her message 'Monday as in tomorrow' as I unerstood it - in which case he's being deliberately thick and expressing unwillingness tbh. NOt rude as such just reluctant.

I think he was just double checking so that they didn't have further confusion. Or maybe he was making a light hearted joke that got lost in translation.

I don't think we have to find a way of making the man out to be in the wrong.

Either way, I don't think what he was warranted the silent treatment!

I agree - he has dodged a bullet here.

I vote for a joke too if you mentioned it being tomorrow in your message. Like oh bugger is it really Monday already?

But you seem determined to be offended

I also think you're the rude one. His message doesn't sound rude at all.

Gosh, you sound like the rude one here!

It's not rude. You've misunderstood. As per everyone else's thinking in this thread.... tell you something OP?

I really don't think you're ready for this dating lark.

Yeah sorry op but I have no clue how this offended you ...

I said, let's see each other this Monday.

He replied, oh I can't, I have the kids etc.

I replied, ah no that's fine I actually meant Monday as in tomorrow - totally understand if that is too short notice though!

He replied, tomorrow's Monday?

I have just left it, yes, because I said twice now which date it was! I feel like it is a bit thoughtless because can't he just read properly? Or make alternative plans if he wants to see me? It's obvious what I mean.

Your latest post doesn't make you sound any less, um, prickly...
You seem disproportionately irritated by it.
Fair enough if you don't want the date, but there's nothing rude about his reply.

I agree that you should leave it and if he replies again, I would continue to ignore. The poor man hasn't done anything to deserve a date with you and if this is what you are like about a text message, I dread to think what you are like about an actual genuine issue!

I'm with you that it's a bit of a weird reply - but not rude. I don't understand why you didn't just say "yep - tomorrow's Monday - are we on?"

Sounds like because of the previous week's confusion, he was just clarifying that you meant the next day. Worth another try i think!

Why didn't you respond and say "I know?! How quickly has the weekend gone! So shall we have a drink to get over our post-weekend blues then" or similar?

What Cabrinha said.

why would he need to clarify, super, if OP has just written 'tomorrow' in the message?? I'd find it irritating too. If it was a 'oh it's monday already tomorrow - fine but surely he could hhave followed up when OP didn't respond to an inane response which was repeating her own words.
As I say, OP - I think he was not keen to meet next day hence trying to drag out the convo a bit stupidly.

I'm irritated by it because he asked me when I was free and seems to find it difficult to just pick a date. He has form for this but I always dismissed it as "his way". Now I just find it flaky and annoying.

I hate to say it OP, but he doesn't sound like the annoying one...

Fair enough NerrSnerr. At the risk of drip feeding though this is the latest in a long line...

If this is the latest in a long line and you haven't even been on your first date, then this really is not going to be a relationship that goes anywhere!

I've read back through and can see why I come across badly.

Basucally he asked me to do something, so I agreed but he didn't give any potential days. So I said ok Monday, he said no, I clarified that I meant Monday as in tomorrow, he replied tomorrow's Monday? Same conversation going on and on...

If we didn't see each other then (which we didn't) then we won't be able to see each other for weeks; I am away now (which he knows) and then he's going away. It's really hard work and I feel like he's not making any effort towards making it happen despite asking me to go out in the first place

This is also technically a third date but first given that we haven't seen each other for a while. I don't get it. I'm normally accused of being too nice and tolerant so perhaps I was a bit rash. But I cannot be bothered to play games.

I hear you on the flakiness. I dumped an OLD guy after about 8 dates because it was always me organising things. He was into me - at least from the reaction to the dumping and the previous willingness to jump to my tune... But I was married to someone with no gumption and it doesn't suit me!

So it sounds like he's either not that into you or even if he is, he's not your type.

I still think his reply wasn't rude - just irritating. I do think if you had posted your last post first, and said you'd found his reply annoying rather than rude, that you'd have had different replies!

I would say now though - stop flogging this dead horse, block him, move on, enjoy your holiday!