Police welfare visit, is it ex harrassment?

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I'm hoping someone might have some knowledge about this. The Police visited my house on Friday evening, I was away (from the day before to today) and I had a dog-sitter staying. She said they asked for me, said it was a welfare check and when I would be back, they were in plain clothes and had showed a card (though she didnt know what the card was supposed to look like)...I have no idea what this could be, I checked Google and it seems there has to be a reason, so you think someone had a fall, or has been 'missing' or a social services report about children etc
Brief background (and why I'm concerned), earlier this year I was pregnant to what turned out to be a very controlling and abusive man. I got great advice and support on here, and from local Women's Aid...he believed I was still pregnant when I wasn't. He has legal letters sent saying I had to 'prove' I wasn't still pregnant, I did not do this.
in the end, around a month or two ago, he was served a Police harrassment warning after I gave them all the evidence. They rung me after it was served and said he was livid, and was putting in complaints to them about it, and wanted to know the exact details of what evidence they had etc. I was expecting another legal letter to go to court in October when I would have been due to 'prove' I haven't had a baby...but he is an impatient man so I doubt he could wait that long.
I know from reading this board, these men follow similar patterns, I'm worried he is keeping tabs on me through this 'welfare check' to see if I still live there (I have just been on a two week holiday also but there was housemate at the house), or to determine if I look pregnant ( I would have been six/seven months now) or to show me he is still watching.... I'm scared what he will do if he gets evidence I am not pregnant. How can I make sure the Police do not tell him this? And would this count as indirect harrassment? (he previously rung the hospital demanding my medical records and they said that was indirect harrassment)
Any help/advice most appreciated...I would move but I can't for another year as my daughter is at college nearby, and it's so expensive
Thanks for reading

I hope you can get to the bottom of it.

Shame you're not rid if this clown yet, but glad you're getting all this good advice.

Been thinking about you since your earlier thread. How are you doing, generally?

Sorry for delay in response, not heard anything else as yet, all v strange. Police said looking into it but not heard back yet

Preemptive - thank you, that's lovely of you. I'm keeping busy, but if I'm honest I haven't processed the loss or the trauma of it all really. And he haunts me, daily, and I have flashback dreams. I was referred for counselling but I don't feel ready to go there
I am always looking over my shoulder. I will move as soon as I can next year when my daughter has done her A levels, I think that might help

How did you do with further discussions with the police?

And did you complain about that idiot on the phone? Please do.

They said they would look into it and get back to me, haven't heard yet. No, I didn't report the other idiot, though I did tell the second person I spoke to. I will look up ipcc tomorrow

If you want to make a complaint you need to report it locally. At this stage it wouldn't be for ipcc. If the complaint is about the initial call taker you need to speak to someone in charge of the call centre. They'll have procedures in place for complaints

Call 101 again tomorrow with your reference number. Keep cAllington til they confirm who came
Do follow up on the counselling .

I remember your last thread about the legal harassment and having to 'prove' you weren't pregnant. Sorry to hear that he is still being a dick.

If there is any way you can move then I really would.

Have you heard anything?

How sure are you they were police? Just seems very odd for plain clothes officers to run a welfare check and for there to then be no log of the incident. Do you or any of your neighbors have any CCTV that might have captured the people who came to your door or the vehicle they were in?

Hello, an update:

It was the domestic violence officer that dealt with my case following up to check on my welfare, they had been ringing while I was abroad, their visit wasn't recorded on the central or local computer when I was querying it.

Very relieved, wasn't aware they would do this especially given how busy that department is but reassuring

Thank you for your supportive messages, was a very worrying time

Thank god for that.
I'm so relieved for you x

Glad to read this.

I remember your first posts about this.

I'm glad it was actually someone who genuinely cares about you and not ex and his stupid games.