Slept with colleague

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On Friday I was out with work. I ended up sleeping with one of the contract managers we've been flirting for the past 3 months. Client relationships are frowned upon and we work very closelyrics together

He kissed me when we were at the bar and went back to mine. We talked a lot about relationships and life and he told me some pretty deep stuff (both very drunk) including actions of his that would be sackable offenses

As he was leaving he said some pretty nasty things like was I to be under no assumptions that I'd even go on a date with him and saying oh I bet ull call me drunk now. Just being arrogant. Obviously haven't heard from him

I feel so stupid, not only is he not very good looking but it's going to be so awkward and I'm not a ons kind of person

I'm 31 and he's 33

Any advice?

Thanks. Lesson learned. At least he's not in the office for a fewes days .it might be Friday by the time I see him, in which case things will hopefully be better.

The thing is, you know things about him that would get him the sack.

If you don't report them, would you be in trouble yourself? There was a thread here about a woman who knew her boyfriend was involved in insider trading (I think) and she needed to know whether to report him. Is it something like that or something more minor?

I know it might sound like blackmail, but I think you're in a stronger position for knowing those things unless you'd be in trouble for not reporting them.

Is it possible in your job for you to switch with someone else?

Is he buying something from your firm?

The first time you see him will feel awkward but I'm sure it'll all get back to normal (bar flirting) very quickly.

Learn this. It's easy.
"And?"
Random colleague: There's a rumour going around that you slept with X.
You: And?
ONS: I'm never taking you on a date
You: And?
You haven't done anything wrong. He has bad manners or isn't a nice person. That's not your fault. So if anyone tries to make an issue of it - "And?"
Its a non-event. No need to deny it. Its just not worth talking about.

He works for a big consultancy firm and is working for my company

The thing he is doing is not only against his contact but against the law, involving illegal substances

Ah. Coke twat. Another reason to avoid him.

During work hours...

If he's doing coke at work, hopefully it won't be long before he gets found out anyway. Then you won't have to see him again. The rumours tend to die down very quickly when one party goes.

You knew this and you slept with him?

I think that makes you a pratt too.

Disassociate yourself.

He told me this afternoon I slept with him

• after not afternoon

I agree with being cold and distant, it's self preservation.

If you know stuff that puts you in a difficult position professionally, you can always have a but of drunk memory loss if it's easier. In fact, just forget the whole thing ever happened. Job done!

I'd drop the nasty b*stard in it if I could do with no fall-out to myself.
Anonymous tip? ;)

Oh and "I bet you'll call me drunk now" - should've replied "Not after that performance mate"

He told me he hasn't had a girlfriend since he was 18...

I think you've discovered the reason for that.

Sorry. He's just an immature pratt who you do not need dragging down with.

You both got drunk and shagged like rabbits. It's not the end of the flipping world, is it.

How did today go?

He's working off site this week so won't see him until next Monday

Deny deny deny . Ignore ignore ignore

Thanks for all the advice. Feel like an idiot cos I liked him for ages :(

Oh honestly we've all been there! If you don't take any risks then you don't get anywhere. It was an error of judgement. My life is full of them. Onwards and upwards.

I deleted his number so no drunken texts :)

If he starts Gobbing off just deny it and say you both fell asleep drunk as he was to pissed to get his floppy winkle dick up