Hello you lot
I've name-changed because this is a really hard one
I have a great friend. Close for years. we both have 3 year olds.
I'm a believer in firm boundaries. My child is pretty low maintenance & lovely (apart from in this heat!) ever since my friend's child was about 18 months old she has been quite violent (has pushed/hit my child/bitten several people & last week hit my friend in the face) Child also rarely listens, has melt downs all the time, and is very difficult. My friend is constantly saying how 'lucky' I am to have such an 'angel' & gets really upset as she 'can't take hers anywhere' but I have never seen her give boundaries/tell her child that her behaviour isn't ok etc. Ever. In fact she is always walking on eggshells while the kid calls the shots. Her child tried to hit my child again last week.
Finding it hard to be around them & not really able to relax as her child's behaviour is unpredictable. Really hard to say 'how about some consequences for your child?' Without offending her when there are things been thrown at me & my child or just general chaos. Found myself making excuses to not hang out the other day....
Asked her if she thinks she need any support with child & she dismissed it. My child said ' I don't like %#* anymore the other day. WWYD?