My partner hit me

[DeeDee123azAZ09]

It's quite a long story but about a month ago my partner got angry, stormed upstairs in to our bedroom one night demanding my phone because he has trust issues. I gave him my phone and he saw a message from a friend's mum telling me something personal, he didn't like it... Locked me in the bedroom, kicked me in the leg, elbowed my in the face, threw me to the floor, chocked me and pushed my face in to the floor then hit me in the back of my head. He did all this while our baby girl slept in her cot in the same bedrooom. He didn't apologize as he said I deserved it. He constantly puts me down and times me if I go see my family, if we argue he calls me fat (knowing I'm struggling with an eating disorder) since he has stomped on my phone and has nicknamed me chubs or chunks, grabs my wobbly parts and says what's this bit... Maybe you should calm down with the eating...

He left me 2 months after our little girl was born because he couldn't cope with me having male friend's and told my friend he wanted to hit me. I got close with a guy (the one who the argument started about) I told him and apologized for what had happened before we got back together.

He says I made him do something he'll regret. Months before his ex girlfriend (who he has children to) contacted me and told me he used to hit her on regular occasions so I confronted him and he said he did but he was a changed person and he would never hurt me and I believed him up until he did.
Since that night he has got really lazy, won't feed, bath or get up in the night with our little girl and says her crying stresses him out I'm worried it will happen again, I have no friends anymore and aren't allowed to talk to anyone that isn't family. I don't know what to do anymore. He's the love of my life I don't want to leave him but I keep thinking maybe it was a one off and it won't happen again as long as I keep him happy.

Any advice would be appreciated :(

[differentnameforthis]

I keep thinking maybe it was a one off and it won't happen again as long as I keep him happy. You CANNOT keep a violent man happy, because they don't hit you because they are unhappy, they hit you because they are VIOLENT bullies.

The chilling thing here is, that he said you deserve it. That there is no remorse.

This will happen again, no matter how much you try to prevent it. IT sounds like am horrendous & sustained attack, and it will only escalate, and escalation beyond choking can only result to one thing...

[Iamdobby63]

I'm sure his ex thought it was a one off until he got away with it and did it again and again.

You must get out, follow the advice on here, if you don't then his violence will escalate and the cycle will continue with your own daughter.

Sending lots of love and hope that you can find the strength and the confidence to leave and never look back.

[movpov]

You need to leave him. The ex telling you about him hitting her was a huge red flag and it's a fact that guys like this don't change - anyone who has it in him to do what he did to you will not stop at only doing it once. He will tell you it's your fault, you asked for it etc so he doesn't have to admit responsibility or feel guilty. Get rid of him if not for you then for your child's sake so she doesn't have to grow up witnessing this and thinking it's normal . He's not the love of your life - he is controlling and a violent abuser. Please do whatever it takes to get you and your child away from him