Ghosted by ex...now he wants me back, what do I do?

[NewbieElizabeth]

I would really appreciate any thoughts on this!

November 2014 I met a man through a temporary job I had. Met on a night out, swapped numbers, I told him my plan was to move abroad for a year and was looking for a job. He didn't seem bothered by this, texted me a lot and flirted. I got my job abroad and I told him, he arranges to meet the night before I move.

The day comes, and I text him. He never replied, and the next day I moved. I was pretty upset, and wondered what had happened, but got on with my life.

May 2015 out of the blue he contacted me. It turned out he had stopped all contact because....he got a huge spot near his lip that day and didn't want to kiss me or for me to see it

Because of the way we lost contact, I have always wondered what could have been. Now, I'm back in the UK for good within a few weeks and he has said he wants to give it a go.

My instincts say no way he cannot be trusted but a small part of me wonders....Is this a bad idea?

Thank you for reading!

[Jemmima]

O sorry, I hadnt read properly.
What do you feel in your gut? What do you want to do?

[Jemmima]

So you have been in touch casually over the last year or so anyway. I thought from what you said that he had just got back in touch when you moved back. Makes things slightly different then doesnt it?

[NewbieElizabeth]

My OP isn't as clear as it should be, I edited it to make it shorter and removed some important details.

Oct 2014 - ghosted me

May 2015 - got in touch, told me the spot story, we talked and had the odd chat until now

Now - probably a month ago he asked 'you still moving back to UK? Are you moving back for good?

Thing is, I did like him, I was very hurt he disappeared, and for the past year I have let myself imagine us being together.

But my gut tells me he let me down, ran away, didn't care enough to take the time to text me to say he could not meet, let me wonder for months, and then got back in touch when it suited him. So I cant be with someone like that. I thought I might be overreacting but I don't know, was interested in how other people would have reacted to it and whether he would get another chance

[SandyY2K]

What a pathetic excuse he came up with. I'd not waste time with a prat who didn't even have the common decency to respond to you.

He could have said he came down with a stinking cold or something better.

Forget him.

[Anicechocolatecake]

Don't meet him. It takes so little effort to text to cancel a date and he couldn't bring himself to do it. At best it was cowardly, at worst it was pretty horrible. It's not a nice way to drop someone. You don't do that if you value their feelings. He'd mess you around at sone point. It might take him months to do so or much less time. Don't risk it

[BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted]

He's a pillock. Ghost him back

[MonkeysWAGMug]

No. Ghosting is a shitty twattish cowardly thing to do. The only circumstances it can be justified is if there's abuse in the relationship.
If he had cared about you he would never have done that.
Now he thinks you're the one that got away? fuck that.

[Montane50]

It must have been the mother of all spots to take 6 months to go!
Seriously though, if he was so vane that a spot stopped him from seeing you one last time before you left, why didn't he just fib and say he couldn't come to see you as it would be too upsetting etc? That would have been believable. But to wait 6 months before an explanation was given? Nah hes on a booty call op