My mother has lost me a friend:-(

[SpaceCadet]

as ive only lived round here a few months, ive been trying really hard to get to know people and for a couple of months now ive been very friendly with one person in particular, we chat every day and meet at toddler group. she told me a bit about herself and informed me that she was following a particular career path(im trying not to say too much in case she lurks on here), shes kept me up tpdate on her chosen career and is starting a training course soon, naturally ive mentioned her to my mum in passing and yesterday at the school, i introduced my mum to her and my mum said, oh yes you are the lady who is going to be xx.
at which point she suddenly became really hostile, cut my mum dead and then was really off with me.
today i couldnt beleive it when she totally blanked me!!!!..obviously my mums comment upset her and now she doesnt want to know..im shell shocked really..what did i/my mum do wrong?

CD-no only the other day she was telling me that she was starting the training in march, shes been through quite a rigerous 4 month application process and passed all the way.

I honestly wouldn't give her the time of day. If she can drop you so easily she obviously is shall we say quite fickle? It sounds as though you were in the preliminary stages of building a friendship and she has withdrawn - not your fault and no loss. I think 'friends' such as these can be emotionally draining and actually have a negative impact. If she spoke to you tomorrow how would you feel? Probably quite resentful of the cold shoulder turn around. Go to your activities and act like you don't know her - as she is doing to you - and don't think about it any longer. There are always new friends to be made.

justustwo-theres definitely more to it than meets they eye..although goodness knows what..i would ask her if she didnt keep walking away from me!..im not going to chase her!

I think even if you are able to speak to her and sort it out she will probably do the same again whenever the next little thing happens to upset her. You're almost certainly better off without her. Incidentally, if such a small thing upsets her I can't imagine she'll make much of a success in her chosen career unless she manages to grow a very thick skin overnight

well i decided to email her.
" xx"
I hope you didnt mind me mentioning to my mum about your new career, I havent being gossiping about you, merely mentioned it to my mum as I was impressed with what you were doing. I hope this wasnt the wrong thing to do as it seems apprent that ive upset you in some way and it certainly wasnt my intention"

That's a good email Space Cadet. No mention of the word "sorry" which is a word you oght to avoid because you have nowt to apologise for!

Well-worded, spacey.

I have to say, if she ignores you after that, then she isn't worth having as a friend. If she hadn't blanked you over this, I'm sure she would have blanked you over something else equally inconsequential further into the friendship (when you have potentially invested more time and energy into the relationship).

However I hope she responds positively and you can move on from this together

She sounds like hard work unless your mother said "So I have heard that you are joining the filth". What a strange reaction.....

Very good email though. Perfectly worded - at least it might avoid future awkwardness, even if she is a bit odd.

I would stay clear from her tbh!! She sounds very erm high maintenace and picky and nippy and way too jumpy!!

Glad you have sent her an email.

I would probably have said "Did you have a problem with me telling my mother about where you shall be working"? and take it from there.....

Good e mail, Spacecadet...I hope it makes things clearer - even if clarity reveals that she is a wing-nut!

well im not expecting a response..i will be pleasently surprised if she does respond..but if she does, i will still put some distance between us, i dont expect to be treated like this by someone who i initially thought was quite nice.

miaou- im sure you are right, no doubt this would have happened at some point over somethingelse.

Maybe she suddenly recognised your mum as the woman who ran over her cat.

I don't like balloons. Am OK with the other two though.

well its some hours since i sent the email, and no reply, i did my best, shes obviously barking.

I would just put it down to a bad experience and forget about her....

Space cadet, you'd think that particular job requires someone who is able to communicate with and get on with other people wouldn't you?

Don't stop going to the toddler group.

Hey... deffo don't stop going to toddler group!!! People can only treat you the way you let them treat you, so don't dare let her push you out from the group!! She sounds like a twat TBH. I hate moody people & she sure sounds like one...

thank you! I feel a bit better..i havent had a response to the email which i think says it all.

Any news ?? Have you seen her ??