My mother has lost me a friend:-(

[SpaceCadet]

as ive only lived round here a few months, ive been trying really hard to get to know people and for a couple of months now ive been very friendly with one person in particular, we chat every day and meet at toddler group. she told me a bit about herself and informed me that she was following a particular career path(im trying not to say too much in case she lurks on here), shes kept me up tpdate on her chosen career and is starting a training course soon, naturally ive mentioned her to my mum in passing and yesterday at the school, i introduced my mum to her and my mum said, oh yes you are the lady who is going to be xx.
at which point she suddenly became really hostile, cut my mum dead and then was really off with me.
today i couldnt beleive it when she totally blanked me!!!!..obviously my mums comment upset her and now she doesnt want to know..im shell shocked really..what did i/my mum do wrong?

Alot of police dont like people knowing what their job is as some people can be hostile towards them . This could be the reason .

i did wonder whether it was the way my mum worded it as she said police force, but shes not technically a police officer.

you haven't done anything wrong. and your mum hasn't lost you a friend - if she's that sensitive she would have been gone sooner or later anyway.

Tbh I would just act normally. Go to toddlers, talk to her as if nothin happened, if she's annoyed then it's up to her to explain why.

If it was me I would actually feel quite flattered that someone thought enough of me to mention me to someone else.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee-but in that case, why did she tell me?

spacecadet, i wonder if you had been the only one she had told as she was concerned about other people finding as her choosen career could alienate her from others as i believe it can happen. or maybe she isnt going to do that at all and she has been sprung mountain molehill etc

banaloaf-well if she didnt want anyone to know..shes talked about it loudly enough at toddlers!

I was friendly with a woman once who was training for that job too. One day it was a huge secret, next day it was sprawled all over her blog moody beggars

Either ask her or ignore her, but don't waste your energy wondering what you have done. People like that are never worth it. In all honesty, if you apologise (for something you have no need to say sorry for) then it will look like she can walk all over you & you will forever be walking on eggshells around her..

maybe she's actually going to be a stripper. in a police uniform.

But it made it sound more exciting to be a "liaison officer"

firefly-it never even occurred to me that shed want to keep it top secret as shes been so open, and i only mentioned it to my mum, admittedly i wasnt expecting my mum to say something to her..damn you mother..
well if she carries on blanking me, so be it..like you say, im not going to apologise when i havent done anything.

Tell her.......... you didn't tell your Mum, she is the talk of the village.....

The village are wondering if her and her big mouth compatible to the job.

wannabe-pmsl..i cant quite imagine her as a stripper!!!!

, pmsl LGJ

She's a loon. I too like vodka, balloons and monkey jokes.

Or...she has been sacked and your timing was a bit unfortunate?

pages-she hasnt started yet.

thanks for your advice everyone, if she blanks me again, ill ask her why, if shes unpleasant or still blanks me, ill file her under barmpot..and as custy says..move onto less analy retentive people

update-she blanked me at school again and then i saw her walk of with someone else and they were discussing going to toddlers together..charming!, so although im a bit upset, ive filed her under, not very nice and a bit of a fruitcake.

what a horrible person. i hope that doesn't pu you off toddlers. go and hold your head high!

it has for the moment im afraid as its only a small group.

justustwo-thanks, yes i was hoping to catch her today and find out what the problem was..but she seems intent on ignoring me, so i cant do much else...i would like to know what the problem is though

sounds like your mum has done you a favour, SpaceCadet: your "friend" is an obvious nutter.

I would send her a short e mail saying you are very sorry that you seem to have upset her. You are sorry if you had done the wrong thing by telling your Mum, but you had been impressed with what she was doing, and had mentioned that to your Mum. Tell her that it has not been your intention to upset her, and you are not sure what, but if she tells you you hope you can sort it out.

It sounds like some big misunderstanding - i would be factual, neither indignant, hurt nor hand-wringing, just open and honest It would be a shame to just let it drop or worse fester into somehting bigger, when it might be a simple mis-understanding of some kind.

blu-i will see if she ignores me again, then perhaps try your email approach..if she doesnt respond, then at least i tried i guess.

Maybe she applied and got turned down?