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Ok....

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Fireandflames666 · 02/07/2016 18:45

I was messaging my best male friend the other day and was telling him that my drunk oh was trying to push me in to having sex. He replied with "oh, that'll be another kid on the way then!". Why would he say that?. I don't know how to take it.

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Fireandflames666 · 02/07/2016 20:50

Why so?, that's a bit sexist.

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GrimmauldPlace · 02/07/2016 20:51

You're comfortable enough with him to discuss your sex life but not enough to call him out on a comment you found weird?

PurpleDaisies · 02/07/2016 20:51

Why so?, that's a bit sexist.

It isn't sexist-LadyStark is just pointing out that it is pretty unusual.

TheLadyWithTheYellowHat · 02/07/2016 20:52

Hmm strange thing to discuss with a male friend, is he married?

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Fireandflames666 · 02/07/2016 20:53

Look I'm quite anxious by nature, I don't alwa

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Fireandflames666 · 02/07/2016 20:54

Always respond to comments that are off like that.

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BolshierAryaStark · 02/07/2016 20:54

So you had a male friend who you were in love with & now have another male friend who you think is jealous? I think you have issues in your relationship that need to be looked at tbh & possibly needs regarding male attention that you may wish to address separately.

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Fireandflames666 · 02/07/2016 20:57

My relationship is fine now thanks. And I have several best friends of both genders.

All I wanted to know was why he said that to me. It seemed like a harsh comment.

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BolshierAryaStark · 02/07/2016 21:00

Yeah course it is love, you have a partner who attempts to push you to have sex with him, that's a perfect relationship Hmm
Like I said, I really think you have a need to have male attention issue, I'd be looking at that if I were you-its not healthy.

Hotandcold2016 · 02/07/2016 21:01

Hmmm you need to be honest with yourself op. Which best friend are you in love with?

wombattoo · 02/07/2016 21:02

Your relationship is not really fine if your DP was 'trying to push you into having sex', you then text about it to your male friend and he makes a remark about 'more children then'. You then think he is jealous.
It all just sounds weird

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Fireandflames666 · 02/07/2016 21:02

A male attention issue?. Because I have best friends who are male?.weird.

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GrimmauldPlace · 02/07/2016 21:04

But unless you ask him you won't know, will you? I struggle to imagine having a "best" friend that I couldn't ask what they meant by something. If you're that close then it should be easy to say "what's that supposed to mean?" surely.

Fwiw it doesn't seem like a jealousy driven comment.

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Fireandflames666 · 02/07/2016 21:08

Thank you Mrs fizzy. Best response so far.

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BolshierAryaStark · 02/07/2016 21:09

Nothing to do with having male 'best friends' & everything to do with being in love with one of them, convincing yourself another one is jealous & accepting a relationship where your partner attempts to force sex on you...
Whatever love, you are the one that's weird no matter how you fucking paint it.

LadyStarkOfWinterfell · 02/07/2016 21:13

Because your friendships with these men aren't actually friendship. Either you're in love with them or you think they might be in love with you and you're talking about your sex life. This isn't friendship, it's juvenile attention seeking.

Moistly · 02/07/2016 21:14

Not sure what you wanted to get out of this thread Op.
Did you want people to tell you your friend was jealous of your sex life?
I'm not sure why you would tell him something of that nature either. What were you expecting him to say?

Moistly · 02/07/2016 21:17

Even the threads title is attention seeking, like an fb status

wombattoo · 02/07/2016 21:19

The issue isn't simply about having male friends. I have male friends but I don't discuss my sex life with them. And if you feel comfortable enough to disclose that your DP was trying to force sex on you, why could you not just ask 'what do mean by that' when he made the remark?

Lovehandles · 03/07/2016 00:26

sounds like you want your best male friend to be more than a just a friend! Wink

allnewredfairy · 03/07/2016 09:04

I would question why you are discussing your sex life with your friend then jumping to the conclusion that his off the cuff comment was made out of jealousy.
Maybe he thought you were inappropriate and said the first thing that came into his head.

TheNaze73 · 03/07/2016 09:07

You want to be with the other bloke I think.

Hissy · 03/07/2016 10:27

How old are the kids you have? How much of a gap between them?

Your friend may be hinting at your h keeping you pg to keep you busy and dependant

ChicRock · 03/07/2016 10:33

You have a dysfunctional relationship with your OH, you overstepped the boundaries and fell in love with a previous male friend, and now you are behaving inappropriately with another male friend and imagining an emotional response from him that just isn't there.

The common denominator here is you. You have issues. Go get some counselling.

loveyoutothemoon · 03/07/2016 14:12

All they are saying is that it's unusual to discuss things with a male friend. And I agree. No one was being harsh. And how do we know why he said it? Very little info here. I suggest you be more open and tell us your feelings, as we will listen.

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