Think i am beingcheated on

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This evening driving back from the seaside in my bf car a weird thing happened he has a i phone and must have had it connrcted to the bluetooth on his car anyway a name flashed up on his car bluetooth dashboard it said dawns i phone
He doesnt know a dawn neither would he have it on his phone unless hes cheating i pretended i never saw but inside i was shocked ive not mentioned anything but ive got a feeling hes cheating i cant get into his phone im a technophobe and hes properly got her name filed under some app were going through a really bad time and i was thinking of asking him to leave anyway so wouldnt be surprised if he was cheating what to do now if i ask he will deny it

OP my twopennorth:
a) if this is the only problem in your relationship - then you are insanely jealous - and to be frank it should be over.
b) if you are this stressed because there are lots of other issues with his behaviour/this relationship - then frankly it should be over.

So instead of stressing about Dawn; use your time to plan and get ready to break it all off.

What are your reasons for not ending it? You've started several threads about wanting to end it. There's presumably a reason why you haven't done so yet. Am I correct in thinking that you don't have children together, and aren't yet married? So what is keeping you there?

No matter how many threads you start about your awful relationship, your situation will only improve if you make a change.

On my car your have to be inside my car and 'pair' the phone with my car's bluetooth for it to appear. It doesn't automatically add people's phone either from the inside or the outside of my car.

To summarise "Dawn' would have to be in my car and follow a pairing procedure for her to show up on my dashboard. this may not be the same on all cars/bluetooth however.

What car does your BF have?

When I bought my car the factory settings had not been wiped so it kept offering me to connect to ' Daves iPhone '

If the Bluetooth device is set to auto acknowledge it will show up as they pass, but no connection is made until the user/s acknowledge it.
Often the name does just showup as it is he "name" of the other device from the point of view of the device that receives it.
Not all work alike, and it depends on the settings, but I think you are grasping at straws here...

why do you stay with him?

My new car a Ford Focus often tries to connect to other bluetooth devices when sat in traffic , sometimes Johns iPhone or even a shop or warehouse I am parked next to ...it flashes up then disappears unless I chose to pair our devices ...

Are you sure someone wasn't driving past called Dawn and their bluetooth was on and it just popped up as someone he could connect to if he wanted?

It seems a big leap to assume "Bluetooth connection" = "affair" unless you have other reasons not to trust him.

I use bluetooth daily... and, for some reason, I am always surprised when my phone gets a 'Hello'. It is often just a brand name or a number but 'John' is persistent. He parks and lives next door. I have never met his girlfriend, now I am wondering if I am her 'Dawn'

Is Dawn his ex? (Sorry if already mentioned, only skimmed)

When I am out, my iPhone will ask me if I want to connect up with random wifi. It could be "Johns iPhone" etc.
If you try and connect (to steal their wifi) it will then always ask for the password 😳
I ignore them now..

But if it is a real person, trying to contact him - is it really so bad?
I have lots of male colleagues and a few male friends who call me occasionally. I am not having affairs or anything inappropriate going on with any of them.

If there had been a Dawn, her phone would have had to have been within reasonable distance to show up.

The likely option here is that it was either a passing car or somebody walking by the car who had their Bluetooth switched on. Or your partner has previously named his iPhone Dawn. I think my iPhone is called Albert or something. I quite liked the name. Whenever I connect it to my computer it flashes up saying "Albert's iPhone is connected".

If you wanna leave then leave

If it was an incoming call then it would only display 'dawns iPhone' if that was how the number was stored in his contact list, and who stores contacts like that?

It sounds as if the car was trying to pair with 'dawns iphone'.

This would only happen randomly - with a passing stranger - if he had asked it to search for Bluetooth devices nearby. It's a bit of a faff and couldn't be done by accident really.

It sounds as if the car briefly tried to connect with a known device but realised that it wasn't present and moved on to another device on the list automatically - hence it disappeared after a second.

Almost certainly he has had someone called Dawn in his car who connected her phone, probably to play music. He was daft to let her do that and forget to delete it after, daft to pretend he hadn't noticed when it happened, and daft to deny knowing a Dawn. Is it possible you misread the name?

If you don't have access to the phone, you could check the car. I can't advise without knowing the make/model but the phone/media controls are often on the steering wheel and it will be possible to access a list of paired devices (if he hasn't already deleted it)