He scared me and has made me think twice.

[tweeter2013]

My partner of 5 months has been odd all week. Kind of rambling remarks, snide comments, up and down etc.

He hasn't been feeling great and not sleeping well either.

This morning he text to ask me up, I went and when I went in he started asking me if I have ever taken things out his house?? Which I replied no.

He had taken it in his head I had been removing things and sleeping with one of his friends behind his back.

There is nothing there to make him think this, I dont even speak with his friend.

But the behaviour and the way he had come up with this and the amount of time he had been thinking of this has really shook me. He wasn't angry or shouting but it was like he was someone else if that makes sense.

Could depression make him behave this way?

Have you actually ended this relationship? If not you need to make it crystal clear to him.

Yes completely ended!! I have been reflecting this afternoon and I can not believe I have been so so stupid!!

Where to go from here, I feel alone and scared and everything is blown out of proportion, I know that.

Im a very anxious person anyway, so this has made me feel sick.

Thats understandable. Just avoid a relationship until youre feeling better about yourself; that way youll have higher standards for yourself x

I have witnessed people who do all sort of things while abusing drugs...

Congratulations on your exit. Do not waste any more time on him.

I'm so very proud of you tweeter. I didn't think you were ready for this but yes, you've done it! The anxiety and wondering how far he might go will subside with time. Do you have any calming techniques for when you get panicky? If anxiety is your "thing" then maybe you could google for such. Something practical and real.

Your courage and conviction that you've done the right thing will grow. You aren't stupid at all. Many of us have been "there", enthralled with an absolutely hopeless bf/gf/p/h ....

He has problems but they really are his.

It wouldn't hurt to make an appointment with your own GP, as it sounds as if your anxiety is making life much harder for you than it should be. CBT might be helpful - it could make it easier to head off those feelings of panic when they arise. Good luck!

I once dated a fella for 18 months, lovely guy, very fond of him but what I didn't know when we started dating was that he was a fairly heavy user of weed and liked to drink a lot. He had several manic episodes, in one he made me say goodbye as I cried, he was going to douse himself in petrol and die and he made me tell im it was okay. He beat me up, I went back, he fired an air rifle ( he told me it was a gun and I knew no differently) into his kids( they were in their mums tg) toy rocking horse, threatened me, told me I was fat and he hated having sex with me. He tried to get me into swinging and I refused.He ended up in a psych unit, after I told the police and his gp about the gun/rifle and they raided his house and took the gun/rifle I left and never looked back. Now he hounded me for a while, left awful messages on my house phone and called me all night long, so I changed my number. After about 6 weeks e posted on FB that he was in a new relationship and that I was a cunt..I tried to warn the new gf, but he had told he I was crazy. 6 -8 months later she messaged me and he had pushed her against the lit stove during a row and scared her for life, she apologised for not believing me...I was never so glad to escape that relationship in my life

My fella is a former weed smoker. People will tell you that weed is harmless etc blah blah but honestly weed can really change a person. It is awful for worsening paranoia. If he's growing it himself his problem with weed smoking hasn't only just started, he will have been smoking it for quite some time.

I stuck my relationship with my fella out and he gave up weed but honestly we went through hell in the process.

You do what's right for you. By the way in my opinion a boyfriend is not partner status within 5 months.