You all said LTB and I did it! Having a bad day though ☹️

[Glutenforpunishmentnomore]

Hi, I don't really know why I am posting I suppose I'm just looking for reassurance that I haven't made a mistake. I have posted under a few different usernames but to cut a long story short I have finally left an abusive marriage, he wasn't really physically abusive apart from squeezing keys in my hand and pushing me but he was emotionally abusive and subtly controlling, The trouble is I miss him. It's my birthday tomorrow and I feel really lonely.

[SomeonesRealName]

Don't mean FFS to you BTW I meant him

[Glutenforpunishmentnomore]

That's ok I didn't think you meant me! He is continuing to be a twat, found out today when I tried to call my previous solicitor for advice re contact with the children that HE has instructed him against me as he is a friend of his friend! I have complained as it is a conflict of interest but the solicitor is insisting their is no conflict, bloody nightmare!!
He is still trying to control me, he is only wanting to have the kids when my other 2 children are not with their dad therefore not allowing me any time to myself also at stupid times which are not in the children's best interest.
Looks like I'm in for a war, precisely what I wanted to avoid 😩

[gamerchick]

They always do that, my ex did it as well to stop me having any free time. Hold your nerve, log any nastiness and if he steps out of line have a policeman have a word.

Next will come the 'custody' thing. The major card when they're feeling desperate and you're not taking them back fast enough. When they're obsessing about you and what you're doing. It does get better but it'll probably get bumpy.

Such a shame they don't think about how it'll affect the kids though and be an adult.

[Numberoneisgone]

Could you consider for the very short term swopping the other children's contact time considering this is all raw and volatile at the moment. Don't tell ex what you are doing and buy some time to get a better contact arrangement set up.

[Glutenforpunishmentnomore]

The other contact has been consistent for about 7 years so wouldn't want to change that, the kids are really settled with it. I am not worried about time to myself st the moment, I would rather my little ones were in a happy calm home and not shipped about when he fancies seeing them.
I'm just so sad that it's turned out like this, I bloody hate him at the moment.

[SomeonesRealName]

www.sra.org.uk/consumers/problems/report-solicitor.page perhaps you should report that solicitor, Gluten.