manipulative sister In law

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Does anyone have a manipulative sister in law who they live with? She makes everything I do look bad, and always making snide comments about me. She's obviously jealous that I am much better at most things than her but how can I cope with this? Sometimes it just gets too much.
My husband refuses to move out of the family home so that's not the answer :(

We dont live with the inlaws but have gone nc with them. We have never been happier in our marriage but it has been hard for my husband

You are a separate human being to your husband. You can move out. If he wants to live with you he can move to your place.

I agree with runrabbit tell your husband that you're moving out, he can choose to move out with you or stay with his parents and siblings.

I'm guessing you are living in an Asian family. If I am right then I suggest you do what my friend did (very similar issues, years of being ground down) - she eventually snapped, calmly told her husband that she was going back to her parents, packed a bag and left.

Within a week it was sorted out and she is a million times happier now.

This problem isn't going to go away. You can't change her. All you can do is choose whether you keep on living together under the same roof.

Tell your husband that you want a home of your own. Maybe you and he can work out a plan and a timeline together. If he won't hear of it, then pack your own bags and go.

Don't threaten him with leaving: tell him what you need. If he refuses to take that on board, that is when you take your responsibilities into your own hands and go, in order to seek your own home with or without him.