Cheating: How do you feel now?

[CottonGrass]

To those who have been cheated on and forgiven their parnter, how long ago was it and how do you feel now?

The only person being nasty to kimmie is her snake of a husband

6 years here. Ironically, just before the ow's H came a-knocking on the door, I'd been congratulating myself on what a good relationship we had. We stayed together I think because I couldn't work out the alternative with 3 children. I sometimes wonder what my life would be like now if I'd bitten the bullet and forced a split.

He's actually a lovely man and we rub along well together. He did all the right things post discovery. But with our youngest almost 18 I'm starting to fear a future with someone who could hurt me so badly. I truly don't believe he would do the same again so I can't say I don't trust him. But however well we get on - and we do enjoy each other's company - there continues to be a huge void between us. I will never forgive him - whatever that means. Not so much because of the betrayal itself, but because the discovery made me completely unhinged for a while and our children witnessed me having a few meltdowns. I hate myself for not having better self control but ultimately I can never forgive him for putting me in that position.

And I always feel like I am holding back emotionally. I sometimes wonder if he notices that I haven't said I love him for 6 years

The first time, never. The second time, never, and counselling. The third time, never, and binned.

Hth. Don't be me.