My husband has just accused me of violence towards my Sen child.

[JemimaEaves]

I was trying to get my son out of the car whilst he was having a mega meltdown. My husband was going to be late so I swivelled my son round so his feet were out of the car and then held his hands to pull him out. He threw himself on the floor and scrabbled away from me. He is 15 and as tall as me. After he had finished his meltdown we went out for a meal and had a lovely walk together. My husband has just come in ranting about me being violent to my son and saying that my son is terrified if me. He then up and left for a couple of hours in a temper (leaving his son with his "violent"mother). He has just come back and made the same accusations. He also say that I don't know what I'm doing. He has made it impossible for me to defend myself and laughs at me when I speak. I had to promise not to touch my son again. Which will be fun on Monday when he refuses to get out if bed for school. I'm feeling totally numb.

Well sorry to have been away so long. Basically I'm stuck. It will cost money I don't have either to get him out (occupancy order) or move out myself with the kids. He wrote a half hearted apology in which he said he still "had his doubts" and still won't let me anywhere near my son. For me it's the last in a long line of failings in the marriage but to him I'm overreacting and now being "unforgiving" by not just going back to how things were. As for the marriage, he says I should lower my expectations and count my blessings!

I think if I were you the relationship would be over, whilst getting back into the marital home is convienent don't underestimate how refreshing it is to have your own place and a fresh start for you and your DC. Life is too short to live with a bully.

I agree - it's just a matter of money now....