Not sure if this is the right place sorry.
But DD(10) was very upset today and I need advice as I'm not sure what to do.
The background is that when DD was born her mum and I gave her my surname. I split up with her mum years ago and married my DP and we hyphenated mine and his name. We now have two boys who also have our hyphenated surname. So DD is the only one with my original surname
She had a small show today in her art class it was an hour where parents see the kids work. I was going to go but DS 1 was ill so I couldn't go and my DP was working till lunch so he couldn't go either. Another parent took her and dropped her home.
When she got home she ran straight to her room and we could hear her sobbing. I went up to her and she said that at the art class they did an activity where the family wrote their surname and decorated it. But she didn't feel like she could do it because no-one in her family has her surname.
She begged me to change it as she wants the same name as us. I explained that it wasn't that simple we would have to ask her mum who would probably say no. We also haven't been in contact with her mum for a while so it would be difficult to find her. She started crying again saying it was all she wanted more than anything else and could she have it for a birthday present.
It's not the first time she has asked to change her name she has mentioned it on and off for the past 3 years or so, but it's the first time she has gotten so upset about it.
I have no idea how to make this better for her. So I am hoping you can adviser on what to do next to help her.