Following on from another thread about friendships changing as you age, there are a lot of posts on there about people being friends from a young age and maintaining that friendship for life. I wonder if it's possible to make that same kind of genuine deep friendship with someone that you meet as an adult?
I ask because I come from a military upbringing where childhood friendships were mostly fleeting. Friends I had at school have settled all over the known world and as such we have drifted apart, with only the odd Facebook comment here and there to keep contact. I have found it unspeakably difficult to make friends in civvy street. It's almost impossible to break into the friendship groups of people who have been together since primary school without constantly feeling like the third wheel. I have a nice working relationship with my colleagues, I think I get on well with them and will text them outside of work but I know that never in a million years would I be invited to go out with them socially because they have their own friends, and they wouldn't be a shoulder for me to lean on in times of need. It's incredibly lonely at times, and being that I'm still only in my early 30's I hate to think that the rest of my life will be like this. I would love to hear other people's experiences....