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Is it me? Or him?

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BoopTheSnoot · 04/06/2016 08:25

I'm posting here because I just need to vent.
DS1 is 23 months old. DS2 is two and a half weeks old. DH works full time and I'm obviously on maternity leave.
I've done every single night feed since DS2 was born and look after both children alone all day. This means that after bad nights, I'm running round after a toddler and a newborn on an hours sleep. As well as doing all the housework, washing and cooking.
DH has started acting funny towards me, snapping etc but won't say what the problem is. It's just about pushing me over the edge, I'm having a really hard time. Some days I feel like I'm drowning. He sods off to bed at 10pm, falls asleep straightaway and gets up at 7am. Then he moans about how tired HE is! Really? That nine hours a night of unbroken sleep taking it out of you?
I don't know what to do. I'm too exhausted for an argument with him but the way he speaks to me is getting me down. What do I do?

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BoopTheSnoot · 05/06/2016 10:20

He came down at 1am while I was sorting the steriliser. We rowed briefly, he went back to bed. Don't even want to look at him today.

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allthemoomins · 05/06/2016 11:57

I'm so sorry Boop, what a twat he is. Is he at least going to keep his promise of taking the boys out so you can get some time to yourself today?

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BillyGoatGruff007 · 05/06/2016 12:13

Boop,
Has he seen a doctor recently ?
9 hours sleep every night and falling asleep on the sofa after work doesn't sound right in a young man. Unless he's doing a physically demanding job that is.
Coupled with showing little interest in his two young children and tetchiness / bad mood, could it be there is an underlying health issue ?

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BoopTheSnoot · 05/06/2016 12:51

He's taken the eldest to the supermarket to get a bit of shopping. I'm here with the little one. So I suppose he's kind of half kept his promise. It's hard to mind, as he is adorable; look at his scrummy little feet!
At least my kids are truly two of the good guys even if their dad is a prize bell.

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Kr1stina · 05/06/2016 16:46

These are scrummy big feet,he's going to be tall .

As for sleeping 9 hours a nightmare I bet he's not , I bet he's watching porn / online gambling / chat rooms etc . No one sleeps in the loo for 40 mins .

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BoopTheSnoot · 05/06/2016 18:35

Yes the midwife who delivered him noted that he has quite long feet and will probably be tall!
I sincerely hope not, DS1 still sleeps in our bedroom. If I found out that porn had been played when he was in the room, I'd hit the bloody roof.

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ExasperatedAlmostAlways · 05/06/2016 18:51

Wow you are doing far, far too much for having just had a baby two and a half weeks ago and expressing. My eldest I had to express for and it was exhausting having to sit and feed the baby then express and still sterilise everything too. I also only had her to look after.

I think since he clearly is still ripping the piss you need to stop doing everything for him until he gets his finger out and starts helping you more. It will take a bit of pressure off you.