How is housework divided in your house?

[DetentionGrrrl]

When i comment that DP does housework, people seem surprised- surely he's not the only one?!

I'm not back in work until March, and DP works Mon-Fri. We both load / empty the dishwasher, DP is usually the one who hoovers, i iron his shirts for work and make a him lunch to take, and i wash the clothes. We both bath DS every night, and i take care of DS during the day. I cook every night except Fri- which is DP's night to cook...which means take away!

DH works 6 days a week to bring in money as I am on a career break and getting ready to be a childminder so....

He takes the rubbish out (as long as I tell him to at least 3 times)
He keeps the garage clean (although he is the only on who goes in there)
and he cleans the loo.

and that's it.

We used to share it but I have to ask him for money as I dont have much of my own coming in and HATE being dependant on him so he pays me to do his chores!

Neither of us are in work (). Dh does virtually all the cooking, including making bread. He looks after most of the financial stuff.

I do most of the cleaning, all the washing and washing up and most of the care of ds (eg dressing, feeding, bathing, going to him in the night if ever).

The dds put their own clothes away and keep their bedroom tidy, sort their bags out for school etc.

Dh and I do the shopping together and generally either of us put the bins out (though I'm a bit remiss at taking my turn!).

Although it looks like I do more than dh, he is better at taking responsibility for things than I am - he is much more on the ball than me about things like whether we are running out of bread or electricity (we are on a meter) and is better at dealing with the bills than I am. Tbh I do sometimes wonder how I would manage without him as he does a lot more than it appears from the outside.

in our house DH does the housework and I don't

pertty good division I reckon

I do all the financial stuff, and generally organise holidays, birthdays, Christmas. I do the washing and ironing.

Dh does gardening, car washing, 'heavy stuff'.

Everything else, shopping, cooking, cleaning etc is done between us.

He's cooked tea tonight (cottage pie from scratch). I've washed up, he's done the sandwiches for tomorrow.

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dh does no housework I clean, cook, wash, iron, hoover etc.

he does the manyly stuff like taking out the bins, car washing and garden

Can I just laugh and leave LOL

DH - bins and light bulbs.
Cleaner - all cleaning, irons dh shirts, trousers/bedlinen
Nanny - childrensironing/putting away/toys
Me - washing, ironing not above, shopping, recycling.Dishwasher emptying. Cooking. Menu planning.
Both work FT.

dp and I do about 70;30 because I physically can't do a few things (but I do all paperwork bills holidays school stuff etc)if I was fully fit dp would do nothing!

It is mainly divided into what I do now, what I will do later and what I am unlikely to get done atall. That said, dp does take out rubbish and compost. That's about it though.

We both work full time and dh has his children from his first marriage every weekend, so doesn't have much time to help with housework. So although I complain all the time about him not doing much around the house, he is just too busy and I don't want his children to lose out because he has to do housework. He has told me to "kick his butt" to do stuff, but I don't want to spend all my time hassling him - it's just easier to get on and do it myself.

On the other hand, he is still doing DIY on the house so is pulling his weight in a different way... Having an au pair who does some light housework has helped a bit and I'm about to ask her to do the week-time cooking!!

Ho ho ho.

That's my hollow laugh, btw.

When you all say DH 'does' housework... do you mean he just does it...no asking, nagging, telling, turning bright red with frustration? My 'D'H can't seem to see things that need done. Is it me?

Me - day to day tidying, hoovering, about 50% cooking, washing machine loading/drying, put clothes away
dh - 50% cooking, most washing up, bins (I don't DO bins), blitz cleaning. He's naturally much tidier than I am, so makes much less mess than I do. Overall I'd say we do 50/50, although I'm at home more than he is. he reckons my job is to look after the kids, not clean. I agree

He is currently doing the ironing. Of his own free will.

(He also gets up nearly every morning with ds & dd, so I don't have to get up til he leaves for work, and nearly always gets up in the night to ds ( dd is mine & she's much less trouble )

Have to say my DH is like your FP...we share about 50/50 no real plan to the housework though. He also sees my time through the day as looking after/entertaining and developing the kids, which he says is a full tim job. So we each muck in and do the house stuff when we can (usually when we know someone is coming round) The basiscs we do usually manage to get covered between us.
He gets up in the morning withthe older two and sorts out their brekkie, while i sort out the baby.

In our house, cleaner 80%, me 10%, dh 10%.

DH does 75% I do 25%.

He is a SAHD, I work full time and am 27 weeks pregnant.

He does all the washing and ironing, cooks in the week, washes floors, does the shopping, looks after the garden (no small feat). On top of this he does the school run and prep for school (lunches etc), homework and general childrenny stuff as well as any DIY that needs doing.

I do all the bills, toilets, bathrooms and I try to cook and freeze two meals on the weekend for him to fallback on during the week. This last weekend I also did all the vacuuming.

We split the bath/bed/evening hell.

Meant to say, Dh's view is that if we had the dc at childminders then we would not be expecting her to do all her housework while looking after the children, so why should I be expected to do it. Took me ages to get used to the fact that i am not superwoman, and that the expectations i had of being a dutiful housewife were actually based on unrealistic (for me) ideals! I do do most of the cooking in the week, but dh takes over at weekends.

we're not really big on housework

i'd say it's 70 / 30 split, with me doing the most. If i ask DP to do something, it's done asap and without complaint.

We have a housekeeper and she does 20 hours a week. She is here in the mornings so any mess made after 1pm I clean up. I cook dinner every night. After dinner DH puts DD in the bath then puts her to bed. I clear up dinner while he does this and when he is done he comes down and helps me finish up. No housekeeper on weekends and we do the housework equally.