I can't believe I am typing this. My husband and I have been together for 14 years and married for 6. We are in our early 30s. We had issues at the beginning of our relationship mainly due to our age. We broke up whilst I was at uni, got back together 6 months later, older, wiser. Things were different. Moved in, got married, had dd who is almost 5. Fast forward to September last year and we tried for number 2. I got pregnant then miscarried at 13 weeks in January. We were both devestated. I've been struggling with the mc and had a period at work where I was very busy. 2 weeks of stress and needing h to pick up the slack with the house. We had also ttc but I was having no success. My periods were all over the place. During this time, H has gotten far too close to a 23 year old girl he works with. He works with mostly females, so when her name cropped up more and more I didn't really think much of it. I don't mind him being friends with women. Looking back, he had started to become secretive about his phone and spent more time texting than usual. A week ago, he asked me if it bothered me how close he and this girl were. He asked me, apparently, because 'she is young and pretty' and he 'just wondered' ??. It came out of left field and started a warning bell ringing. I said I wasn't but told him I was unhappy that he always seemed to be texting 'work friends' even though he'd spent all day with them and that bothered me. We ended up having a massive row because he tried to make me out to be unreasonable and stopping him from having friends. He ended up apologising but I still felt like there was more to it. He kept going on about how this girl was a 'really good friend'. Then he mentioned that she had asked him to go for a drink to discuss 'work problems' and I said it made me feel very uncomfortable and that I thought he was getting too close. He went mad again making out like I was irrational and picking holes in our relationship saying we were never going to survive. Once again, I called him on it and he eventually apologised saying he was stressed. Yesterday he spent the day with his family in Chelsea, a family thing they do every year. I had dd and my niece. I got a few texts from him in the day and when he got home he was texting again. I asked him who and he admitted this girl. We argued because I just couldn't believe after all of the upset he could actually not go one day without texting her. He accused me of being irrational so I asked to look at the texts. He said no and made excuse after excuse about why he wasn't going to 'give in to me'. He then went to the toilet and, shock, after 10 minutes in the bathroom with his phone announced I could read them if it would 'put an end to all of this'! I told him I wasn't stupid and I knew he'd have removed anything incriminating. He became all incredulous but I looked at the messages anyway. There were 80 texts at least between them just yesterday. He'd spent the whole day texting her pictures and updates. Before that daily texts about everything and anything. I called him out and this time he crumbled. He said that they'd been flirting and that he was attracted to her and that two weeks ago the texts had become sexual one night whilst I was out with work. They had met on the Monday to discuss how things had gone 'too far' and agreed it was a 'one time thing'. Since then they have texted pretty much constantly albeit not sexual. Although if they'd met up for that drink I doubt it would have stayed that way. To top it all of, I'm 5 weeks 3 days pregnant. We've known for 10 days and he has still put me through this shit. Nothing physical has happened but he 'doesn't know how he feels' about her. He is a fucking arse hole. What do I do?