Met up with an old flame in 2014 through a course at uni. We hit it off, I'd been single 6 months. Next thing I know I'm pregnant, big shock, was on contraception, obviously didn't work. Had the STD chat as we were ditching condoms, said he was clear, knew I was.
Told him the shocking news that I was pregnant, he accepted, but then told me he has herpes. I thought it must have just shown up as I know it can lay dormant. Basically had to have blood tests to see if j carry the virus, and was told no sex by the doc. I carry the cold sore virus hsv1 so expected that. HSV2 was negative (what he has).
Anyway time went on and I realised he knew about the fact he carried it at the start of the relationship. I was livid! Told him f**k off.
Fast forward had DS, ended up having a heart to heart with the Ex p and was told he was scared of being rejected, told me he's had it for years and was advised that it can't be passed on without symptoms showing. I think I believe this as my own experience with GUM staff is that it's not an important thing unless caught in pregnancy, which is why they said no sex in pregnancy!!
My thing is I'm now scared to have a sexual relationship with him. I get cold sores on my mouth so don't fancy them down below. But I fancy the pants off of him and I'm dying for some intimacy! Not sure what I'm asking really, just needed to vent!!