Why do they do this?

[Bumpk1n]

Hello
I've had a couple of threads about my parents hating my OH. I am in the process of looking to find somewhere to live. I've learnt they are controlling emotional abusers.
I'm so upset.
My OH is on a stag do and has asked me to look after the animals for a few days, I often look after them when he has to work away.
When I told my mum I was going to be away for a few nights she launched into one about how I was inconveniencing myself ( we live two minutes from each other it's not exactly an inconvenience) and she kept going on and on.

I've just come round here and checked my phone to see this message from my dad. Why are they so horrible. What do they think it will achieve? Do they think I'll suddenly think oh yes they must be right, I'll break off from the man I love on their say so. They have such a blinkered view on things and because they are both think the same they must be right and I must be wrong.
I'm glad I've got that message. It's actual proof of how they are.
Sorry. I don't know why I'm posting this. I have no one else to talk to

How awful OP, I think you need to get away ASAP, either with boyfriend or elsewhere. Just a random thought - does your sister live nearby and might you be able to stay with her for a few weeks whilst saving up a deposit for a room in a shared house?

He sounds lovely (your oh) - my dh is not exactly a pin up (years of rugby take their toll!)! Your parents are shallow to judge him on that, but tbh it sounds like that's the least of their flaws.

I really hope you can get away from this toxic pair, they seem determined to sabotage this, probably because you are happy.

Going back home today. Mum, sister and I (not sure about dad) will be going to my granny's because she hasn't been well recently. So nothing will be said before. When we get back though will be a different story probably. I say probably because there will either be a row or my dad won't speak to me. I'm going to try to be strong and express that I am an adult it's my choice and to please respect that but I already know that won't work.
My OH is back from the stag today. I cannot wait to see him tomorrow!

Just let it roll off your back.
Stand up for yourself if you can but do what you need to do to get through it.

Why can't you move out? Not in with him, just out on your own?

Go and see your granny then go back to your bf house
Stay there one more night and when he gets back just keep going out every night
Try to go back to your parents house when they're not there for clothes etc.
Avoid avoid and disengage, you really need to read toxic parents and then work on a plan for yourself.
Stop investing so much thinking time abouT them start thinking of you