Court ordered contact in hotels ?

[Pisssssedofff]

Has anyone heard of this happening ? Basically ex is living in digs Monday to Friday and wants to take the kids every other weekend to hotel rooms. They are 13,12 and 5. They will refuse to go no matter what the court says, they e been asked about their wishes but not told about this scenario.

The thing is nobody gets involved either way from what I can gather. So he will successfully get his child support reduced and then when they don't want to go, obviously he isn't going to go back to court and tell them what's happening so again I'll be paying for that and it takes 6 months to get in front of anybody. I honestly think my best bet is to do everything possible to stop it happening in the first place. I have have some strong amunition up my sleeve if necessary but hopefully the section 7 and cafcass report is enough.

Why can't he just be normal and get a bloody home for himself ??

So, if the police don't get involved, exactly how does the order get 'enforced' if the party does take it back before a judge? The judge tells the person not to be naughty and to play nice?

Yeah that's it basically. Having said that in Australia the police literally stood by and watched him remove my children from my care and take them to .... You guessed it a hotel ... Which he tried to Bill me for and then told me to report him to social services the next day if he didn't bring them to school. Of course he did turn up at school, they'd had no breakfast, were late and had no lunch with them. Do you think that counted for anything against him, did it fuck. The teachers don't want the kids to suffer so they bailed him out. It's a complete pantomime and seems to have no end in sight.

Pretty much. They can fine, send to jail, change residence, order attendance at a Separated Parents Information Programme, vary the order...

It doesn't take 6 months to get a hearing, especially if it's for enforcement. The usual wait is 4-6 weeks.

I sent in the forms, January the 8th, our hearing is next week.

Can't he stay in your house (is it the former matrimonal home?) and you swan off to a hotel for the weekend?

No it's not the ex martial home and last time I let him stay at mine he photographed the contents of my fridge and cupboards which I'd run down because I was going on holiday for a fortnight and the kids were meant to be with him and he reported me to social services ! I have three restraining orders against the man.

And where would I get the money for a hotel ?

Can't he stay in your house (is it the former matrimonal home?) and you swan off to a hotel for the weekend? Oh HELL to the no!

Pisss I guess all you can do then is wait for the hearing and plead your case. BFF wasn't super happy with the access ordered by the court, so she made sure she stuck to the exact schedule, and allowed no deviation whatsoever. Her ex eventually got tired of her 'inflexibility' because he wanted to party or go to gigs and she'd refuse to pick their son up early or change weekends so he pretty much buggered off after 6 months or so.

OP I feel for you, you're clearly bloody angry. Agree an old peoples home isn't the best place for kids to hang around.

Surely then you can ask that any 'hotel' accommodation is suitable for their needs, ie has proper beds for all the kids? I was wondering about this even with a Travelodge but I can't imagine an old people's home having a room with 4 beds available that would cover them all. I do remember your previous thread and I sympathised then that it didn't seem like a great Christmas plan for them.