First date with the guy from POF. Red flags to look for.

[Inexperiencedchick]

We agreed to meet up this weekend.
By texts we get on really well.
We speak on the phone every day in the evening, seems fine...
He asks many many questions.
I'm asking for red flags I should look for on a date.

Thank you all in advance.

Yes as Brienne explained I felt under so much stress... He was asking me questions what my next 5 year plans are...
And at some point I even deleted my profile (we chatted over the phone so it doesn't relate to him)
I actually told him once that I feel I'm under the microscope for the research due to his questions.
Tbh he stated: we will see how it will go... He expects intimacy after 3-4 dates. I haven't had sex at all and for me it was just stress (I'm Muslim and have been brought up differently, he is Muslim too but UK born, so more open minded I guess).
I don't even know... I feel awkward to contact him now...

I thought the same Swing... that he had a date with someone else instead

Mentioning that he expects intimacy after 3 or 4 dates before even meeting? Gosh, I can see how that would be a big turn off meeting him. Sounds like he has a check list for his future wife and wanting to tick the boxes as quickly as possible.

You did the right thing.

That's a hilarious post Swing 😀

Leave it be, op.

In honesty it sounds like you have the issues not him :/ maybe dating isnt for you

Chocolate you are right, I have issues... Fear I guess.
I won't say I don't have.

Deep down I would like to meet someone who I can trust, and be comfortable with, not judged, not abused.

But I afraid, really scared. Realised recently that I stepped back from a lot of men because I was scared deeply...

With this one I was honest... I think it's me who put so much pressure on myself...

A 5 year 'plan' and expectations of intimacy after 3-4 dates..in one respect I admire his 'upfrontness' (I know that's not a word btw) however, it'd be enough for me to tell him in no uncertain terms that he can jog on!

Leave it OP..definitely option 1!!

I'd also stress that OLD is really not for you..at least not now..

Thanks Will...

I always wanted to have a spontaneous connection. That I'm with a person because I see him in my circle (work or study of hobby) and become closer that way...
But So far it hasn't happened.
I closed my Eharmony account yesterday, as I find it boring...
POF is on and off and the same faces all the time...

Having read the thread, I can only echo what others have said and suggest you have a breather from online dating. I really don't think it sounds like you are emotionally ready for it. I recently posted in AIBU? about my experience with a man I recently started seeing (didn't meet online) but it's given me a good insight into some of the behaviour you want to avoid, either from the man or yourself as a response. You might want to have a read.
good luck

He texted right now...

I replied saying I got better... What's now?

Anything further?

He seems a bit intrusive th ough. Did he reveal much about himself when he was asking questions?
The poster who said he had a list for a future wife seems close to the mark. I don't think he would respect your boundaries either if he expects sex after three dates - - he'd probably be crap to since the those sort tend to be human toiletters not people who believe sex should be fun for both--

Balls! Strikeout fail!

Expected intimacy after 3-4 dates. (you may hope for it but to verbalise it ) What a creepy slime ball - avoid.

Maybe you're just not ready yet. With POF the odds are good but the goods are odd!
Chalk this one to experience.
Next time push to meet if there is interest but make sure it's somewhere public and neutral. Make sure someone you trust knows you're going too. Good luck for next time.

He keeps in touch. I don't even know what to think.

Before whole this situation he was asking questions like where do I shop for clothes, where do I shop for food, etc...

For every little move he has a question.

YARRRGHH! He seems like a stalker! Delete and block. Seems you've been conditioned to be too polite but you are feeding that stalker. Stuff politeness and look to your safety. That man is not your friend.

We exchanged few texts yesterday morning, nothing more than that. Before arranged date he was texting nonstop. After my health issues he doesn't text as much...First text in 3 days time was yesterday morning.

I will slowly let it go...