what would your husband say?

[sammyjayneex]

So if guy slightly burnt the rice for tea by accident or some other type of food for tea, what would your husband say? My husband usually gives me a lecture on how useless I am and how I 'need to improve' ect ect and doesn't support me or make me feel better about my tiny mistake, just makes me feel worse

Reading some of the posts on here I'm thinking I shouldn't have got rid of my Ex. He wasn't half as bad as some I read about.

My STBXH would have said very similar to you.

Rice used to always be a sticking point. He claimed I didn't know how to cook it. He said I needed to stand there and stir it constantly so it doesn't stick.

I said I should rinse it, bring the water to the boil, cover it and leave it 10-12 minutes. I also said a non-stick pan would help. But he would never listen cos he is always always right.

He also constantly told me I need to improve.

That's why he is an Ex.
Fuck him.

Take a step back and evaluate your relationship.

Where's Sammy?

My husband would be wearing a rice hat if he said that to me. I don't have a husband these days but when I did he was similar to yours and the situation was untenable for me so I booted him out.

Mine would laugh and take the piss a bit. But these things happen.

Mine would ask questions like "did you turn down the heat?" He wouldn't say stuff like I'm useless.

If I had your OH I would tell him to fuck off and cook his own food in his new home and not to bang his arse on the door on the way out.

Wouldn't say anything, may quietly get some bread. He starts from the basis that he's grateful anything is made at all.

I just asked him, he said he would say nothing. These things happen

My boyfriend would laugh and make a joke about me serving 'Cajun-style' rice for dinner, then he'd probably try his best to eat it anyway and pretend to enjoy it. Even my asshole of an ex would never have lectured me about 'needing to improve'. Who does he think he is? Your Home Economics teacher? He can do one.

this is a typical comment for a typical scene "Out pay attention, you sit in front of the computer and don't notice the time. Some day they will put you in an old folks home and feed you the pudding for forgetting things like this".
He's decent with what ever I serve but i'd be left the task of cleaning the pot....have you ever had to clean up after burning boiled down carrots???
I would consider your hubbies comments to be nasty.

Sorry every not that I disappeared.

At least I know now it's not me at fault.

It's just his snide comments I can't stand.

He said 'did you use the small pan'

I said 'no the bigger one'

'Well you should have'

So annoying and draining

Everyone that *

Mine would probably have a whinge (he's a bit moany) and either just eat it or leave it and get himself some bread and cheese.

He has moaned about my cooking in the past, I have told him to get himself another wife if he doesn't like the way I do things

I wouldn't put up with nasty snide comments, it's just so uneccessary.

He'd eat it and pretend he couldn't taste the burnt bits!

My husband does all the cooking in our house - he's bloody ace at it! I do baking because he can't make a sponge at all.

However when I have, on the rare occasion, cooked and burned something his typical response is "Glass of wine and takeaway?"

Your other half sounds like he needs to cook his own dinner from now on!

Me and DP - if it was edible, he'd eat ot anyway.

If I kept burning it, he'd take over rice cooking duties and I'd do something he does, like the meat/sauce/veg.

If I kept ruining pans that had to be replaced he'd probably suggest a rice cooker or microwave rice or something instead.

If he berated me for it (he wouldn't) I'd tell him to fuck off as he's not my employer.

(LTB)

He'd laugh & say well if I wanted the good stuff I'd do it myself wouldn't I? It's really not a big deal & your H sounds like a knob.

Mine would laugh with me and order a takeaway/cook something else/eat it anyway and be polite. He'd never make me feel so small about it.

My dh would eat the rice, burnt etc, even if it didn't taste nice, and encourage kids to eat it.
Then at some point we would look round the table and someone would start laughing until I would say - It's horrible isn't it? (if it was inedible) and they would all go yes, and we would go to the chip shop.

What he would NEVER EVER do is lecture me on how to cook, talk to me with disrespect, or allow the dcs to do so.

If I cook something one of the dcs doesn't like, he will not allow them to say This is disgusting etc. He lectures them on rudeness to the person who has just spent ages cooking for you.

If it's draining then it means things like this happen a lot.
Do you have kids together?
Do you know why you stay with him?
What are his good qualities?

My dh would be wearing the pan if he said something like that to me. The last time I had a culinary disaster he just ate the edible bits and we substituted what we could.
He'd probably put it down to me having a shitty day with the kids and offer to buy beer, wine or something stronger depending one they were in bed.
I've never felt the urge to be massively critical if he makes a minor mistake, and burning the rice really is minor. Does he do this a lot?

My DP would eat whatever I put in front of him and lie through his teeth that it's nice if it wasn't because he'd be scared of hurting my feelings (and he's not a food snob like me).

If it was entirely inedible he'd cuddle me (because I'd feel bad I've burnt the tea for an always-hungry man!) and tell me to sit down and would take over to make something else or suggest a takeaway, with very good natured taking the mick.

Because that's just what lovely people do.

If he ever heard someone speak down to me like a servant, saying that I "need to improve" he'd be right there with his cape on and his scowly face.