A typical evening with your OH

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Bit of a broad question, and not necessarily easy to answer, but what does a typical evening look like for you and your OH? How much do you do together, how much separately? How much do you talk? Laugh? Kiss?

Come home, greet each other with a hug and kiss, talk about our day, cook and eat, do some housework, make a fuss of the dogs (they get the majority of the kisses and cuddles!), watch some TV, usually its me initiating the kisses and cuddles as i am very affectionate but thats ok it works for us.

We have had evenings where we've been on our phones ignoring each other without meaning to...they arent much fun.

Dh gets in around 6:15pm
We bath ds and put him to bed together at around 7pm
Then if I haven't cooked we will cook together, now and then a take away. Always had dinner at the table and talk about our days.
Watch some to, kisses& cuddles sometimes more
Bed around 11:30pm/12

We game together in the same room. Mostly the same game (multiplayer).

Always randomly hugging/kissing. Joke/banter together.

Sometimes snuggle up and watch a show/movie.

Him on one sofa, me on the other. On tablets or iPads, or he will be watching football. No conversation really, no kisses or cuddles, no laughter. 29 years married this year. We co-exist.
It's pretty shit.

4 nights of the week we both go straight from work to a workout that we do together so do that then come home and cook dinner together.
On non-workout nights we come home and spend a bit of time chatting about our days and pottering then cook.
The rest of the evening is spent at opposite ends of the sofa on tablets or reading, sometimes with something rubbish on the telly.
If there's something good on telly we'll sit together and watch that.
We'll have a few cuddles through the evening and a kiss when we get in but we're both very fidgety people so if we cuddle up on the sofa it only lasts a few minutes before one of us wants to move/get up/get a drink

We walk the dog together and chat. Take it in turns to cook dinner, sometimes eat at the table sometimes on the sofa. The odd time we'll cook together with cuddles or play fights in between. He'll generally have a beer or two, I don't drink in the week. We watch TV, whatever box set we're currently on, and will talk/joke about what we're watching. We usually start out sharing the sofa (with the dog), then at some point he'll move to the armchair as its nearer to the tv which he can't see well otherwise and he refuses to wear his glasses. He'll come and affectionately annoy lie on, squeeze or otherwise mess with me every now and then.

Usually go to bed at the same time, cuddle, maybe more than cuddle or sometimes just chat or listen to the radio/a podcast. Then say night night and retreat to our own sides to sleep, fairly often he'll go to the spare room at some point as we're bad at sharing a bed, then come back for a cuddle in the morning.

Half the week nights we're doing our own thing though, he plays football, I go to yoga etc, so we'll only see each other about nine.

Weeknights we will chat about our days when he gets in, one of us will cook dinner while the other entertains DD. We eat together and snuggle on the sofa with an episode of whatever box set we're watching. We'll bath DD together and I settle her down for bed. We then have time to ourselves; he plays computer games and I watch telly and use the laptop for an hour or so. We then go to bed and cuddle :) At weekends it's similar but we usually cuddle on the sofa sharing a bottle of wine and often watch a film.

Lots of laughter, hugs and kisses generally. We're pretty happy :)

During the week I tend to do the dinner as I'm home earlier. DH cooks at the weekend as he cooks more faffy meals than I do! Sometimes on a weekend he'll make a g&t for me and he'll have a beer, or I'll make us whisky sours.

We always sit at the dining table to eat and talk about our days. That is my favourite time of day and we always make one another laugh. Then we'll do a few chores together.

Later we'll watch a box set or programme and play with the cat. I quite often read on the sofa. At the moment we're ttc so we might have a quick shower then head to bed. Usually though we sit next to each other, sometimes cuddling but often just near.

We go to bed at about 10.30 and read for half an hour before lights out. We've been together eight years (married three). In a totally not-showwy off way, our marriage is the thing I'm most proud of, we still love each others' company as much as we ever did.

28 years married... he works away a lot...

Weekdays: laptops banned after 6pm
Sit on separate sofas
Eat in front of live telly
Choose the next episode of a series or history programme that we often talk about as it goes on
Bed early (he's up serving coffee in bed at 6am), separate beds. Kiss and cuddle, lots of I Love You's and goodnight

Weekends he is in:
6 am coffee
Morning shopping and stuff
Afternoons: listen to music and pay cards, games, eat a NicPic lunch that morphs into comfort food tea - mid afternoon roast on Sundays!
Evenings: pick a film, maybe get a bit drunk

Everyday: we can't pass each other without a hug, kiss, I Love You. My DSis thinks this is a bit OTT after 31 years together, but it is how we do things!

Dp gets in at 6.45 and we bath the kids together, followed by bedtime. If I've made easy to re heat food during the day then I'll go for a quick run whilst he re heats it, if not then I'll make tea. Then sofa, he has his laptop, me a tablet (I mn, no idea what he does). By 10 we're both knackered so we go to bed. It's generally uneventful. Rock and roll life style or what! We've been together 18 years and have a 2 year old and a 9 month old. Hence the knackered part.

During the week, DDs go up to their room at 6.45 which whichever one of us isn't going to the gym. The one who is gyming will usually be back by 7.30-8.00.

The one who is at home will have prepared dinner for the next day and done lunch boxes.

We'll have a chat, dinner, maybe some wine and Masterchef if it's on (one of the few programmes we both enjoy).

DH is teaching me to play chess - so we might to that. If I can persuade DH we will play Scrabble - although I don't ask him too much as I know he doesn't enjoy it

We usually go up to bed between 9 and 10.

I'll read my Kindle and DH will either watch something on the iPad or go to sleep - unless either one of us can be persuaded otherwise

Even though ds is 2 I'm not totally convinced we really know how to "do" evenings anymore. I suppose having dd threw thinks out of whack too! We used to eat as soon as we got I the go for a long, long walk to talk very night. We haven't found anything other than laptops to replace it.

After dinner and dc are in bed, he continues working, I work a little or potter on iPad, and we watch a tv series in bursts. Occasionally a glass of something.

Sometimes a kind of fever takes hold and we have a few jars and a LOT of music and talk talk talk. Been together 20 years so I love those evenings as it's just like when we got together.

Depends on the day of the week. Monday we don't see each other as he has kickboxing and judo straight after work and isn't home before I go to sleep. Tuesdays we chat a bit but he leaves for the gym around 730pm and I'm in bed when he gets back, Wednesday he's at jujitsu so a hat before he leaves at half 7 and again I'm in bed before he's done.

Thursdays I teach a karate class so im usually leaving just as he gets home. Then once I'm home around 830pm we'll catch up on a recorded programme. Friday I'm at karate training so again see each other briefly before I leave at 7pm and when I get home we have a quick chat and had to bed.

Saturdays we usually watch TV, a movie and sit together.

Ds goes to bed about 7.30, dd at about 9.

Dh and I either do some work (self employed) or dh watches TV, I read a book or play on MN. Sometimes we watch TV together and we snuggle up on one couch (but if we do that I usually fall asleep).

Occasionally we will do something more active like play chess or cards or a board genre.

Sometimes we chat, sometimes now, and sometimes we plan holidays, trips away, weekends, talk about the issues the kids are having, etc.

Then up bed for dh to rub my back ;) dh usually goes to bed before I do.

Married 17 years.

Cliffdiver you could be us!

We have been playing variations of Rummy recently as chess got a bit heated and he insists on proper nouns and colloquialisms in Scrabble

I only see DH once a week due to our conflicting work times. Even then we're too tired to do anything else other than eat and have a light conversation. Our situation is not tenable in the long run, but I don't know how to change it unless we both get new jobs. Ideally I'd like to have a good ratio of familytime/me-time/relationshiptime but don't see that happening any time soon if ever.

DP gets home at 7 most evenings. We cook dinner together while chatting and playing with DS. We usually have a cuddle and kiss while DS stares at us, aghast. We then have a rushed dinner because we're always late, one of us gives DS a bath and the other one puts him to bed. This leaves us with another 1.5 hours to ourselves at the most. We usually sit back down at the table, have a chat and munch some nuts. Then I get ready for bed and sometimes read in bed on my own, or DP gets into bed with me, we watch a film on the laptop or read whilst snuggled up, or we have sex. In any case, there is a lot of physical contact and occasional talking. I am nearly always asleep before DP is tired, so he gets back out of bed and plays a game on his PlayStation.
We've been together nearly 6 years and living together 4 years.

dh and I are rarely in the same room.
We are both in jobs that sometimes require working at home in the evening. We are both the sort of people that are involved in lots of things outside work (volunteering, hobbies, etc), and we have 3 teen dc who often need to be taken somewhere. Then there's things like housework and washing and cooking and paperwork type stuff like banking and sorting best utility or phone or insurance company etc.
So
One of us at least will be doing one of those things usually.
Works for us - we've been married 22 years

We spend our days together and most nights so we don't tend to differentiate between the two.
A normal night is separate rooms until about 11.00 then we meet up in kitchen for a brew/ something to eat and then we'll spend a couple of hours together.
Neither of us watches tv very much.
We have been together 27 years, married for 23.

I finish first - when he gets home, we spend 1/2 an hour or so catching up on our days, he'll take a shower, we'll eat together and then do our own thing. I watch Netflix and go online, he plays xbox and we chat. Most nights we watch TV or a movie together too.

Then bed - we read and then either kiss/cuddle/have sex or go straight to sleep.

We've been together 19 months living together since Christmas. He works some evenings so it's different every night. He usually cooks a meal and leaves me some to eat when I get in from work. I go to the gym, ipad, TV, read when he isn't here.

The evenings he is here we take it in turns to cook, afterwards we might go for a walk or the gym (we both have Fitbits so always trying to get the steps in) otherwise it's TV (Game of Thrones, box sets or a film) read, ipad games or we might chat and fool around on the sofa.

Both in bed by 10pm and watch the news, we chat then and kiss, cuddle and the rest...

At weekends we might go for a long walk, meal, gym. But always lots of love, laughter and fun.

Mostly bickering and grunting. He watches tv, I don't. I go to bed at least an hour earlier than him, he locks up, waits for cat to come home, switches off washing machine if it has been on and is in danger of beeping away all night, puts last few bits in dishwasher and switches on.

Pure romance!

Am I the only one who feels both sad and angry about the extent to which technology separates us all, even while we're in the same room?

I surround myself with cushions and launch them across the room when he starts snoring on the settee.

Go to bastard bed man