On Line Dating OP coming on too strong

[1DAD2KIDS]

So anyone who is privy to my other theads/posts knows I am currently OLDing. They will also know I am quite openly looking for a causal arrangements or posibly a FWB (if I find the right person). Mainly because I have very little free time, loving being free to explore the world again and if I am honest have very serious trust issues from my previous marriage.

Anyway all is going well and I had a lovely causal experience last night. The trouble is there is this one girl I am talking to on OLD. She is smart, very attractive and funny. Met her on Tinder. Made things very clear (as always) what I am after. She said she was after something serious. So I thought fair enough, nice to meet you end of the line. Anyway we kept talking and we are both single parents who have been in abusive relationships. We have a lot of shared values and if I wanted to share my life again with someone she would potentially be a good candidate. I told her again that I did not want a relationship. She said my story had reduced her to tears and she could see I am such a good sweet man. It's such a shame I did want anything serious she said. I have a lot of respect for her as she has been through hell and come out the other side. She asked me then can we be friends? I said OK, let's have a pot of tea and some cake sometime.

The trouble is I am not sure if I have done the right thing. Like I say I think she would make a good friend. I have loads of good friends but non who are single parents. Love to have a friend who know where I am coming from. But I am not sure if her offer of friendship come with an motive. She has messaged me saying this:

Your so cute ... I wish you was ready for a girl.
I think we would be great together ...
2 nice people looking after eachother & all our babies lol x

Now is it me or is this a little strong? I mean she did put lol at the end. Maybe it's my trust issues making me paranoid?

Do I entertain a friendship with her or is she clearly wanting more for me than i am ready to give. If so do I call off the whole thing?

Or am I shooting the goose that laid the golden egg. She appears to be great relationships material and so intelligent. I know this is a little shallow but the fact she is hot is also muddying my judgement.

I would avoid her like the plague. She sounds over invested, needy & is trying to get you to do something you're not ready for. I'd say thanks but, no thanks, block her & move on

Just to let you know I am going on the lam from this one. At least I am starting to home my senses now.

Intelligent?

Your instead of you're, incorrect use of 'was' and a lol at the end?

No sir.

In her defence that is a bit of a low blow. For one I am dyslexic and would hate the thought that people would judge me as thick for spelling/grammar mistakes. I make a hell of a lot of mistakes. Also (sadly) the use of text speak is part of the evolution of the English language. You watch and see. It mainly comes from a need to make typing more efficient. LOL wheather you love it or hate it (I don't like it) is becoming more prevalent in normal communication. The language is ever evolving, hence why we all talk nothing like in historical literature such as Shakespeare of Dickens. Imagine if we did hey? There has been plenty an intelligent person held back because of such cultural or linguistic snobbery.

Please forgive me but I do have a little chip on my shoulder regarding this. I had a biology teacher who always used to put me down about it. Not long after after my dad died it was parents evening. My brother went in my dad's place. All he could do is lambast my spelling. He started pissing him self that I spelt grill instead of girl. He said I would never amount to anything. My big brother nearly hit him. Well I have probably serverd this country more than he has ever and no doubt I earn more than him now. Not that wealth is the measure of a man but the feeling my teacher would hate me earning more make me feel warm inside. But that definatly wasn't because of his help. So to make judgement on spelling etc can be a bit of a red herring.

I think her grammar and spelling are the least of your concerns, she just seems a bit OTT given you have never even met her. When I was online dating I ignored the grammar and spelling of messages and tried to focus on the content of what they were actually saying to me. The only issue I have with text speak is I don't actually know it and have to consult Mr Google. I'm so not down with the kids! Lol x

PS. Your teacher was a prick and it's a pity your big bro didn't just deck him! x

She sounds like a bunny boiler. No-one sane starts texting fantasies about marriage and babies to someone they haven't even met yet.

Run for the hills.

I know I would have loved him too. It wasnt long after our dad died and we didn't need that shit. I was still struggling to come to terms with it. My brother had a bit of a reputation and would have done some damage. But my brother was a little bit of a bad boy in his youth and that probably would have got him banged away. So lucky he didn't, but he was so angry. He's not a bad boy anymore. He set up a successful family business and him as his family are doing very well for them self's. I am so proud of him and he has always been an awsome big brother.

But yes I have nicely told her that there is no point as we are after different things. She has still not replied. I think she has the message as she normally replies straight away.

thats good It would have been a huge hassle 1DAD And she very likely would have escalated.

Thanks. I think I am learning.

This perfectly describes the person i went to school with 1DAD. You may come across similar on the dating site again so if they sound anything like this or tick a few things on this list.......AVOID!

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