I went back to work in Feb, I do a hard but rewarding job within the NHS. I work circa 35 hours a week but odd hours so night, weekends and at least 1 X 12 hour shift a week. I do all school runs for preschool and primary school, cooking, most of the laundry, prepping house for cleaner (we just got a cleaner as I was struggling) paying bills and organising finances, rubbish etc etc the list goes on.
Dh has the Dc while I'm working, loading dishwasher at the weekend while I'm working and putting laundry away at the weekend etc.
Anyway dh has a habit of winding me up, I hate it, I tell him I don't like it, he says he can't help it and teases me and always has and it's just a dickhead trait of his that he can change.
In fairness he does it to most people, he is a wind up and I've known him my whole life and he has always done it but this particular subject upsets me.
He says things like "what have you done today, eh lazy" and if I ask him to get something for me etc "you do it, you've been sat on your Arse all day", usually I can laugh it off but yesterday I cried. I've been working so hard in a new field, dd has autism and so I've been dealing with all sencos, meltdowns etc etc, the house, school runs, fucking everything and he was still winding me up.
I didn't laugh, I said exactly what I had done, what I do on a daily basis as well as working and that if he would like me to stop and actually start being lazy doing fuck all like he tells me, would he pick up the slack.
He said sorry and I had a cry, he keeps asking if I'm still mad at him and I'm not, I'm just upset still. I have shit loads to do today and I'm working until 2pm till 2am (he is home early because he booked a trip away when I'm on shift and thankfully work swapped my work around to accommodate dh). I want to just leave everything and tell him to FOTTFSOF