Do you believe in Karma?

[mightypissedoff]

XP and I split up about 4 months ago. He got together with someone else not long after and I've learnt today they have gone off on a two week holiday to a place where we always discussed going but could never afford. I know I'm being unreasonable (which is why I haven't put it in AIBU) but I am feeling so jealous - firstly because he has moved on so quickly and I haven't, secondly because he's taken her on holiday and lastly because he has a narc personality but I hear he is being on his best behaviour with new GF and being kind, considerate etc which he never was with me.

I really hope Karma works and she finds out what a dick he is and dumps him. I'm aware this doesn't make me sound like a nice human being but please don't flame me.

Do any of you believe in Karma and have you seen it in action?

Ah thats really hurtful for you. Wonder if she knows about this place? Where is it out of interest?

Karma usually takes a long time to catch up on my opinion still waiting for ut to catch up on my ex Husband. You say you havent moved on, are you still single

Do I believe in Karma? You bet I do. What goes around comes around. If he's a pig he won't be able to keep up being nice for ever and she'll find out what he's like. You are well out of it and will find someone lovely in time.

Thanks for quick replies. Yes, I'm still single - am not in the right frame of mind yet to move on. I know splitting was the right decision and feel silly being jealous. They have gone to the Maldives :(

What do you mean by karma? I get confused because people seem to mean different things when they say it.

Fwiw i hear he is being on best behaviour

Whoever is discussing him with you- stay away from them. Why do you know all this? That he is seeing someone else, going on holiday, best behaviour wtc? You are not helping yourself move on whilst you are still choosing to have him in your life and headspace.

Rude .. unfortunately he is brother of one of my close friends - I have tried to distance myself a little and told her I don't want to hear anything but she still tells me. You may be right and I will have to distance myself a bit more.

My idea of Karma is that I hope she treats him as badly as he treated me towards the end

I would be very firm with this friend. She is being very insensitive to tell you this stuff! How does she think it makes you feel? Tell her straight that you dont want to hear it anymore because it is hurtful. She should at least have sense enough to understand that!

I think you are just wishing bad things on him rather than karma. (My understanding is "what goes around comes around" "reap what you sow") her treating him badly wouldnt fall under my understanding of karma as it would be unrelated to how he treated you. I think karma in terms of his new relationship would be if he treats her badly she leaves him. Which is just natural consequences/reaping what he has sown.

Oh definitely. I've always believed and seen evidence of that what goes around comes around.

What kind of evidence ilive

I think the proper use of Karma relates to something in the next life, in which case you cannot know that he's coming back as a delightful woman who falls for a twunt :)
However in this case he will probably end up alone and angry having gone through a string of women who disappointed him in some way. He'll sit mouldering in his chair feeling aggrieved at the injustice done to him.

I'll have to be very vague as itll out me. It's very identifying, but someone said some thing very hurtful to me, and I told her. Those words will come back to bite you. I don't know, when where or how, but they will and sure enough they did.

Sorry it's so vague, but if I mentioned the full story. I'd have to name change permanently due to it connecting with my other posts, and I'd feel like I wasn't me. If I name changed.

Ok. Forgive me if i dont take your word for that being evidence of karma!

To a certain extent. I do believe that you reap what you sow, but that the 'reaping' is a natural consequence of being an arsehole in general, not a 'revenge' thing on my behalf perpetrated by God.

Let's say that I was involved with a generally nice bloke who truly fell in love with someone else, cheated on me, I found out and it broke my heart. I don't think that 'karma' will get him because he handled a single situation very badly. If he was a serial cheat, yes, because his general behavioral pattern makes him susceptible to disease, getting involved with a shitty partner, or getting his arse kicked by someone else.

I do. That's why whenever something really bad and undeserved happens to me I always go out and push over an old lady just to even the score.

No. No such thing.

I like the "a happy life is the best revenge" thing, though.

Oyster

I dont belive it. Simple, in my religion "karma" doesnt exist. But, as people do the good thing is must so we can got kindness from God.

When you're a twat to people on a regular basis then people will treat you accordingly. It's not karma, it's the natural consequences of being a twat.
This relationship won't last if he's a twat to her too, and if he's a poor judge of character he might have picked a twat too so that won't help. None of this is karma.

I don't believe in karma hitting other people. I see it more like a boomerang. You sling shit, it will come back and hit you in the face. Their karma is theirs alone.

Personally, I think Karma is in the Easter bunny, Father Christmas & tooth fairy envelope. Kind of wish it existed but, of course a load of bs.

No I don't believe in karma because I don't believe there is a higher being that is controlling things. So if someone gets their just deserts it's chance not destiny. So many horrible people live long and happy lives at the expense of others. Where's their karma?

I think everyone goes through bad times at some point, and if you want to put that down to karma from something they have done in the past, then why not!

I do sometimes hope that karma is real. As I have one ex in particular that would get what he deserves!

I agree with pp . . .living a happy life is the best karma.

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Not sure about karma but I definitely believe that you reap what you sow in the end.

It'll just be a matter of time before he reveals his true colours to her. When I first got with the father of my ds I believed all the crap he told me that his ex was crazy but he did the same abusive stuff to me and I realised he was the problem and. I ended up leaving him. Now he'll be telling someone else i am crazy. Not karma just him repeating the same behaviour and women falling for it and then his mask inevitably slipping. It's totally maddening. His new woman took pity on him and he got a free holiday to Florida after all the abuse he gave me he was the last person needing a holiday!