Do you believe in Karma?

[mightypissedoff]

XP and I split up about 4 months ago. He got together with someone else not long after and I've learnt today they have gone off on a two week holiday to a place where we always discussed going but could never afford. I know I'm being unreasonable (which is why I haven't put it in AIBU) but I am feeling so jealous - firstly because he has moved on so quickly and I haven't, secondly because he's taken her on holiday and lastly because he has a narc personality but I hear he is being on his best behaviour with new GF and being kind, considerate etc which he never was with me.

I really hope Karma works and she finds out what a dick he is and dumps him. I'm aware this doesn't make me sound like a nice human being but please don't flame me.

Do any of you believe in Karma and have you seen it in action?

yes totally! Ex-fiancee of 7 years was cheating on me for 2 years, told me 3 months before our wedding he wanted to be 'single' and wasnt ready to get married so we split. Found out 2 weeks after that about the OW when he moved her into our home that i still was on the mortgage/deeds of, then 3 months after our wedding date he married her. (so 6 months after our split)

Few months after that he found her going at it in a club toilet with his best mate....KARMA!

Karma is complete bullshit imho.

I try to live life with a "defeat your enemies with success" mentality, but it's not working out great so far.

Nah, karma is bollocks. I've never done anything to deserve some of the things I've been through, nor can they be made good by a bit of good fortune.

I do believe everyone has varying levels of shit in their lives and those who shit on people more often are probably going to find themselves in shitty situations of their own making far sooner than a shitty situation would naturally occur.

I personally don't believe in karma, I see it as what goes around comes around. my ea ex booked us a holiday. so when he finished with me he rubbed it in my face he was going to go on a lads holiday.

going to back track a bit. while I was with him I lost all friends, he turned my own family against me at times. made me spend all my money on him. even when I was at college and I had to go to the local city to get stuff for a project he made me leave early to go to him. when we broke up he was still ea, he cut himself to make me leave my new friends at an attraction I was at times go to the hospital with him.

back to the holiday....two weeks before he was going to go on holiday the lad he was going with dropped out. I believe all the crap he put me through cam back at him on that holiday.

Sadly no. Karma and the concept of "what goes around comes around" is social rubbish made up by people to (a) make the wronged feel better and (b) encourage good behaviour.

There are plenty of utterly evil people who live long, happy and wealthy lives. For example, drug barons who will die surrounded by a loving family in fat, contented old age having secured happiness and vast wealth on the backs of the lives of addicts.

It is however generally true that if you seriously fck a person over, you will make an enemy who (Depending on their own moral views) may take an opportunity to do the same to you or remain silent/inactive when they could help you out. The more people you fck over, the more you increase the pool of people who would be willing to treat you like that. This isn't "karma" though. It's just logic.

But in the abstract the concept that the is some guiding universal hand that doles out to others what they have done is utterly fanciful. Sadly.

If it makes you feel better though, you go on clinging to that sad little hope of karma existing. It's much better to channel that energy into living your life well - which is the best revenge.

No, I wish life did work like that, but not in my experience.

You tend to find fellas that move on quickly don't care about karma even it it does come in them. They just move on again!

No I don't believe in karma, some folk are just horrible and remain that way until they die and get away with all sorts of crap behaviour.

How you feel is understandable but remember she's gone off with a prick and a twat that you are well rid off, he's probably maxed his credit card paying for it and eventually, once the rose specs come off she will see him for what he is.

Best karma for you is to not give it any more headspace.