If dh friends didn't want to see you?

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Me and dh had a huge row last year, his best friend and wife never really liked me I think anyways. Before meeting me he was Round there most nights with them going out for meals etc looking after their children etc. when I met them the first time the wife was very critical of me not being able to drive and where I work. This night they were at ours me and dh had a row, he left with them and I didn't see him til the morning. That night he pushed me in front of them. Next day they text saying I wasn't welcome around theirs or near them or their children. Dh still contacts them and meets them regularly. Would you be annoyed?

I suspect your not so dear H has been bad mouthing you to them and because they never liked you he's been filling their heads with bullshit , it's easy for them to take the side of your wanker H. It wasn't unti I split with Ex, did I hear all the tall stories he'd been telling to make me sound awful and him a martyr.

It doesn't sound like your H likes you very much and because he's a manipulative coward, this is his chosen way to express his contempt. He and his pathetic friends aren't worth your time.

I would guess that your DH doesn't like the new dynamic that exists now that you're part of his friendship group, that he's been bad-mouthing you to his friends, and that this argument means he can speak to his friends and say "Look, I told you what she's like, she makes me so angry", and they can then "justify" taking his side.

I think you have a massive DH problem and need to get rid of him sharpish. It's obvious his anger issues are not in the past.

So, OP, what do YOU want? Set aside everything you've mentioned about the friends, even the pushing (which was very wrong) and just think: Are you happy with your life as it is? Does your DH treat you with respect? If the answers to these questions is 'no', then ask yourself if you see a future in which this will change. If you don't, then leave.

There doesn't have to be abuse to end a marriage. There doesn't have to be screaming fighting or name calling, either. All there has to be is unhappiness, a lack of respect (either him for you, or you for him), and the belief that nothing will ever change. That's enough to call it a day. No one should live with someone they do not respect. No one should live with an overall feeling of unhappiness, even if there are 'happy times'.

Sit down and look at the totality of your marriage. Look at what you are modeling for your children. Children, by and large, are much happier if they are living with divorced but happy parents. No good is served them by keeping them in an environment where two people are in conflict.

And I agree with a PP above, if alcohol is causing these problems then both of you need to stop drinking.

So they've been around all this time, predating your relationship, and have suddenly turned nasty. Or have they always been nasty to you?

Sounds like a really horrible situation. I'm finding it hard to get my head around tbh.

I don't think there's need for Jeremy Kyle comments we have all had too much to drink once in a while and tbf I hardly ever drink once a month almost I never go out etc. it's clear he's been bad mouthing me off and it's really annoyed me. I'm unsure whether they liked me before or not, they never were welcoming really, more interested in dh. I don't know how to leave. I can't I have no where to go.

Yes I have too much to srink once in a while as well. All that happens is that I wake up with a hangover. I don't get into arguments with people, not even my DH, or getting into pushing and shoving matches with anyone, whether my fault or not.

What is it with so many people that they can't have a drink and a good time without it ending in a row?

Contact Women's Aid. They have plenty of resources.

Where is your family? Do you work?

The whole situation sounds really sad.

1. I just wouldn't be able to get past the pushing. He pushed you to the floor which is agressive and humiliating.

2. that fact was hidden behind the drama of his friends being total idiots - that was/still is the main focus.

You honestly have more to worry about than if his friends like you or not op, this relationship sounds like it's on its last legs and really unhealthy. This isn't normal you know

You definitely sound like you want out of this marriage. Nothing is impossible. Start planning what information and assets you will need to be able to get out. Once you set yourself the goal things will start to fall into place.

Is this about his friends or about him???
So you had a pissed up argument ages ago and the aftermath is still going on???
Do you and your dh often have rows where he ends up pushing you about or was this a 1 off and aside from his friendship with this other couple your otherwise happy and get along?

"...Before meeting me he was Round there most nights with them going out for meals etc..."

That was a weird set up wasn't it Sounds like his friends don't like the new dynamic and want to return to the cosy little three-some they had.
As for being pushed to the floor, surely that's assault? I'd be seriously considering leaving someone for that alone.