He can bump into friends in the street or at Costa and after introducing me, talk to them for ages without including me and he can make calls on his mobile or send emails or look at football apps whilst we are out for coffee, whereas I am in the wrong if I bump into someone and try and include him. I once said how nice my coffee was and he closed my lips with his fingers and told me to shut up and enjoy it then.
He can keep me waiting for days to let me know his plans at the weekend and on a workday it is often 4pm or later before I find out if he is free or rather if he wants to meet yet he likes to know my plans days ahead and gets cross if I don't know or am waiting to hear from work or a friend.
It's ok for him to tell me he is too tired or not in the mood for sex whereas if I say that, I am coaxed, cajoled, worn down till I agree by which time it is usually unenjoyable for me but obviously he gets a nice ending.
He is allowed to shout at me as apparently it will be down to something I have done like try to speak to him at the wrong time. If I raise my voice through frustration at not having my opinion even listened to I am criticised. Apparently it was ok to shout at me the day my dad died and also the day my dog was put to sleep as I annoyed him.
There are many other examples but I won't bore you.
Apparently he never had this "trouble" with his exes.
He can be a cold horrible person sometimes but an absolute charmer at other times. If anyone were to meet him they would find him lovely in public. I find he speaks nicer to people working in shops and restaurants at times compared to how he speaks to me - at times it is so impatient or hostile.
Does anyone else experience this? Is this EA? I am really starting to lose my self-confidence and end up getting stressed and dithery which seems to irritate him further. I have cried every day now for about a fortnight. I am concerned that this is now the "normal treatment" from him for me. Hope this makes sense.
Thank you