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Whats the nicest/most romantic thing YOU have done for DH or DP?

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youngmumoftwo · 08/01/2007 23:30

Just read the thread about romantic gestures for the girls, lots were lovely and reminded me of what my husband and I did BC (before children!). Thought it might be nice to get some ideas and put a bit of romance back, and hopefully he will start too!!

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youngmumoftwo · 08/01/2007 23:35

Thought I should post one to start it off!!
My husbands parents had a villa that we went to every year and the first thing DH would do when we arrived (even b4 getting suitcases out of car) was to go and check "his" pool. He would get the net out and clean it even if it wasnt dirty. It was his 21st on the day we arrived and he had been admiring some Oakley sunglasses. I bought this and wrapped them up in a couple of waterproof bags and a stone and as soon as we arrived, managed to distract him so I could throw them into the pool. Of course he spotted them eventually got quite angry that the previous renters hadnt cleaned it, dived in and got even more angry when he thought it was rubbish, opened it up and was really chuffed with his suprise!

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DetentionGrrrl · 09/01/2007 03:11

i paid for a limo to take us to London for his birthday (quite a distance)and a hotel for the weekend. It was the worst journey ever though...

  • i was promised it would be a secret, right up to DP getting in the limo. Instead, the driver banged the hell out of the front door to let me know he was waiting, half an hour early. When i opened the door, he bellowed 'THE LIMO IS HERE!!!!!!'

  • The 'experienced driver' had never driven the limo, spent 30 mins outside our house trying to work his sat nav, got stuck at the end of the road, and then DP had to direct him TO THE MOTORWAY!

  • i'd booked the limo before i was pregnant, so had travel / morning sickness most of the journey. we had to keep stopping so i could vomit.

  • driver gets to London (eventually) and drives wrong way up a street, keeps driving past the hotel etc etc.

  • we got to the hotel, and it's under refurbishment- we have to get a taxi to a replacement one across London.

There is more, but i can't bear to to go on! (We had a lovely time once we were there)

Lesson learned: romance doesn't have to cost so much. The next birthday i booked a table for us and our closest mates at a nice local restaurant. Less stress, more appreciation!

Aside from that, i proposed to him on one knee with a ring. That's pretty romantic.

DetentionGrrrl · 09/01/2007 03:11

i paid for a limo to take us to London for his birthday (quite a distance)and a hotel for the weekend. It was the worst journey ever though...

  • i was promised it would be a secret, right up to DP getting in the limo. Instead, the driver banged the hell out of the front door to let me know he was waiting, half an hour early. When i opened the door, he bellowed 'THE LIMO IS HERE!!!!!!'

  • The 'experienced driver' had never driven the limo, spent 30 mins outside our house trying to work his sat nav, got stuck at the end of the road, and then DP had to direct him TO THE MOTORWAY!

  • i'd booked the limo before i was pregnant, so had travel / morning sickness most of the journey. we had to keep stopping so i could vomit.

  • driver gets to London (eventually) and drives wrong way up a street, keeps driving past the hotel etc etc.

  • we got to the hotel, and it's under refurbishment- we have to get a taxi to a replacement one across London.

There is more, but i can't bear to to go on! (We had a lovely time once we were there)

Lesson learned: romance doesn't have to cost so much. The next birthday i booked a table for us and our closest mates at a nice local restaurant. Less stress, more appreciation!

Aside from that, i proposed to him on one knee with a ring. That's pretty romantic.

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youngmumoftwo · 09/01/2007 16:52

That sounds a bit stressful!! When my hubby proposed he planned to do it on a suprise holiday but panicked when we got to the airport and did it in one of the "pubs". He was worried the security metal detector would go off and he would have to show the ring and the suprise would be ruined. I find it quite funny and do tease him about it going wrong!!

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flamesparrow · 09/01/2007 16:56

I wrote various quotes and declarations of love on chip forks and gave him one every so often (free way of doing things as a student )

Booked a romantic weekend away, booked his time off work for him, woke him one morning and told him that he had to drive us according to my directions (couldn't drive myself).

LadyTophamHatt · 09/01/2007 16:58

acknowledged his mere existance.....

Tutter · 09/01/2007 16:59

given birth

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youngmumoftwo · 09/01/2007 17:10

ahh done that for him!!

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singledadofthree · 09/01/2007 17:38

bought her a KFC - should have seen her little face loight up

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youngmumoftwo · 09/01/2007 20:46

well thats why I posted this, thought it would be a good way of getting some ideas to inject a bit of romance and affection back into our kids, house and work routines!!

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SSShakeTheChi · 09/01/2007 20:49

can't think of anything romantic...

evamum · 09/01/2007 20:54

DH knows I am rubbish with money and his birthday/chrissy pressies are normally quite cheap. I also knew he has always wanted a motorbike but never got round to getting his licence, so I set up a savings account and saved for a year (without him finding out) and bought him a direct access 5 day course to get his bike licence.

evamum · 09/01/2007 20:57

Oh and we lived in different cities for about 4 years and every time he visited or I visited him I used ot leave post its everywhere with little messages on.

(in his pants was a good one, he didnt find one once and called me that night to say he thought the label was a bit scratchy [ew emoticon!]

Legacy · 09/01/2007 20:57

Took DH out for dinner to a posh hotel restaurant for his birthday. I popped to the loo between dessert and coffee and came back and plopped the key to the honeymoon suite in front of him.

I'd secretly pre-booked the hotel, arranged for our babysitter to stay with the kids overnight, packed his overnight bag and hidden it in the boot of the car.

It was our first night away from the kids in the 6 years since DS1 was born and still the only one .

He was very chuffed, but ironically also a bit annoyed that I'd managed to do it all without him knowing!

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youngmumoftwo · 09/01/2007 21:01

Ah yes I have done that, the post it notes, when I was at uni and he was working back home. Would leave them in his bag, wallet (attached to notes!)shoes, dont think I ever thought of his pants though.... would probably put deep heat in them now!!!

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DetentionGrrrl · 10/01/2007 09:59

i left him a little note in his lunchbox yesterday.

I might leave him a rude photo for tomorrow

TeeCee · 10/01/2007 10:02

Nothing really

He went away once and I packed lots of little notes all over his luggaf=ge, in his shoes, his pockets etc.

Other than that not a lot at all.

Must look into that actually.

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youngmumoftwo · 10/01/2007 16:46

Tee Cee, thats what I though. I looked at the other thread about romantic gestures done by men for the women and thought, god my DH hasnt done anything for ages....and then I realised neither had I!!

I just struggle to think of things that fit round 2 kids and a limited budget!

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ledodgy · 10/01/2007 16:48

Swallowed.

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 10/01/2007 16:51

PMSL Ledogy.. not since you were married I hope.. Married people don't have to do that!

Last year I arranged a surprise 40th for DH involving most of his family and his older kids (18 and 20) coming down from Oop North and meeting us a restaurant which he thought would a meal for just us and two friends.

I once bought him a piece of the moon too We are packing up to move house at the moment and I came across the certificate What a waste of money!

ledodgy · 10/01/2007 16:51

Ahh but we're not married yet....11 years later

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 10/01/2007 16:54

Oh that's ok then.. sort of! (11 years of swallowing... bleeuuurrgghhhh! )