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Crossed the line ?! Or harmless

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Alliaskis · 10/04/2016 19:35

My friend has just sent me a message basically saying that whilst her ex was dropping the kids off to her they played a game of hide and seek .... She was hiding in her bed with her daughter under duvet when the ex climbed in beside her, curled up against her and started tickling her so she'd give the hiding place away with her laughs .....

She was a bit aghast I think is he is in a relationship and it was all a bit touchy feely ... What would you think ?! Over the top flirting or just a bit of fun ?!

OP posts:

RudeElf · 12/04/2016 15:24

Yes, banned. Its going well.

Buzzardbird · 12/04/2016 15:36

Don't put it in inverted commas Wanna! You'll get called names ( which is against MN guidelines btw OP)!

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Alliaskis · 12/04/2016 16:31

I don't think my friend is still in love with her ex.
It's a place I would have hidden as a child - and that is where her child wanted them to hide.
She didn't ask her ex to jump into bed and I certainly wouldn't with my ex.

Rudelf there is no soapbox here love; I am grown and able to voice my opinions in a normal manner.
You were rude and obnoxious from the beginning.

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AutumnRose1988 · 12/04/2016 16:32

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

RudeElf · 12/04/2016 16:34

"Love" (why do people do that when theyre being a dick? ) m

you were rude and obnoxious from the beginning

Was not.

DropYourSword · 12/04/2016 16:38

What did BuzzardBird do wrong??

Buzzardbird · 12/04/2016 16:46

"love" is creepy, much like this post.

Buzzardbird · 12/04/2016 17:07

My humour is not appreciated Sword

WannaBe · 12/04/2016 17:49

Well, if they were playing hide and seek around her house, where the ex essentially has permission to go into any room given it's hide and seek she was the one who overstepped a boundary by getting into bed.

There's a vast difference between allowing your ex into your house even on a social basis for coffee, a meal even, and allowing him into your bed.

Plus if she laughed when he got into bed and tickled her then it's clear that she was not that uncomfortable with the idea. Because for most, if their ex got into bed with them and started tickling them the reaction would be "WTF do you think you're doing?" And the game of hide and seek would be over immediately.

So no, she's not being as honest about her feelings as she could be. With herself as much as anyone else.

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