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Crossed the line ?! Or harmless

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Alliaskis · 10/04/2016 19:35

My friend has just sent me a message basically saying that whilst her ex was dropping the kids off to her they played a game of hide and seek .... She was hiding in her bed with her daughter under duvet when the ex climbed in beside her, curled up against her and started tickling her so she'd give the hiding place away with her laughs .....

She was a bit aghast I think is he is in a relationship and it was all a bit touchy feely ... What would you think ?! Over the top flirting or just a bit of fun ?!

OP posts:

RudeElf · 11/04/2016 21:06

Ha! You dont get to decide who comments and who doesnt. Thats not how it works here.

I suspected from the start that it was you rather than your friend. Now i suspect there is an altogether more sinister agenda at play.

I have not been rude at all. You may not like the questions i have asked but i havent been rude. Suspect you have seen my username and decided to attribute it to my character. Your mistake.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 11/04/2016 21:07

Being really honest, I think it's quite flirty to hide in your bed if you're playing hide and seek with an ex.

And it's quite flirty to then get into the bed and tickle your ex.

He's either a dick and has majorly crossed the line, and is just out for sex wherever he might be able to get it, or he read her cues and decided that, by hiding in her bed, she'd pretty much invited him into it - and he kept the flirting going by ticking her and starting physical contact.

Boundaries are screwed now!

LilacSpunkMonkey · 11/04/2016 21:10

Stop commenting RudeElf!

You've been told!!!

Honestly, some people

RudeElf · 11/04/2016 21:12

I cant!! My fingers, they wont stop moving, theyre out of controooool.....heeelp.

LilacSpunkMonkey · 11/04/2016 21:14

I'd like to have RudeElf's remarks stricken from the record if I may?

LineyReborn · 11/04/2016 21:16

But they're the truth, Lilac. Oh hang on...

YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH

LilacSpunkMonkey · 11/04/2016 21:17

Moves to have Liney removed from the thread.

WellErrr · 11/04/2016 21:22

Was he tickling her with his erect penis?

If not, sounds like it was just a game.

Original poster

Alliaskis · 11/04/2016 21:28

And these are grown women on a forum for advice.

OP posts:

LilacSpunkMonkey · 11/04/2016 21:30

'Grown women in being a bit silly' shocker.

The very thought.

Back to your children and kitchens everyone

RudeElf · 11/04/2016 21:32

WellErrr · 11/04/2016 21:48

But was it his penis??

Because that changes everything.

AutumnRose1988 · 12/04/2016 09:49

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Buzzardbird · 12/04/2016 09:56

Welcome to MN. This is how it works here;
You ask a really obvious silly question, you get loads of silly answers.

Your post reminds me of Cupid Stunt where she says "And then all my clothes fell off!"

Original poster

Alliaskis · 12/04/2016 12:50

Assume you don't work buzzard. Assume you were the school bully. Assume you are the ass in assume.

Obviously I didn't think the question was silly I was asking opinions.
Both you and Rudelf went school play ground bully.

OP posts:

LisaMed · 12/04/2016 13:03

This is a bit odd.

I've always found RudeElf to be lovely.

LisaMed · 12/04/2016 13:03

OP - if you think this is harsh, don't go near AIBU!

crazycatdad · 12/04/2016 13:05

Still don't understand what response you thought this thread would get, that your group of friends didn't already conclude. It's neither appropriate behaviour nor terribly sinister IMHO, but then we don't know those involved to say if this is particularly out of character or whatever.

As to the teasing, I haven't been here to long but there are only so many 'AIBU to think my coffee is too hot?' type threads you can take before you need to let off some steam.

Buzzardbird · 12/04/2016 13:58

Well you have 'assumed' so like the saying goes...

It's best not to have a sense of humour bypass when you post on here with silly situations with obvious answers.

RudeElf · 12/04/2016 14:45

How has a simple question about a friends flirty ex turned into this?? Sinister agenda?

Because i dont think it was about any friend or ex at all. I think it was a set up to enable OP to have his her little soapbox moment about how unsupportive MN is.

RudeElf · 12/04/2016 14:46

Just to add, i didnt initially think this until OP's later posts.

Buzzardbird · 12/04/2016 14:55

Thought you were banned from posting Elf?

AnyFucker · 12/04/2016 14:57

Well this is very jolly, isn't it ?

WannaBe · 12/04/2016 15:01

I think the "friend" is still in love with her ex, so she thought she'd see how far she could take it. She got into her bed to hide from the DC, the ex then got into bed with her and things started getting heated. Perhaps the ex then got out of bed and went back to his partner, and now the friend is confused. But still up for it.

WannaBe · 12/04/2016 15:02

Oh and getting into bed meant she wanted to be found, in bed, by her ex.

If there was crossing of boundaries she was the one who started it.

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