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Original poster

Your dh has had an affair OR siphoned all your joint savings to finance his (until now undiscovered) ONLINE GAMBLING ADDICTION

47 replies

jasper · 08/01/2007 00:04

Ok ladies it's not a happy choice.
this was tonight's dinner party discussion.

Views were polarised.

WHich would you choose?

OP posts:
Glassofwine · 08/01/2007 00:06

bloody hell ..... thats hard

QuootieRedBullFreepie · 08/01/2007 00:09

joint savings... only about a tenner

hana · 08/01/2007 00:09

think i would prefer the gambling addiction myself

VVVwhatever · 08/01/2007 00:10

Addiction is far harder to conquer, and is much easier to cover up.

marthamoo · 08/01/2007 00:11

Affair betrays me - primarily. Joint savings puts our family security in jeopardy.

Ach, I'd be packing his bags either way

hunkermunker · 08/01/2007 00:12

If the other woman was prepared to move in and help with childcare, then fine by me.

Online gambling would have me gouging parts of his body off with a spoon.

VVVwhatever · 08/01/2007 00:13

Surely you could sell his body parts hunker, to help clear the debt?

MamazonAKAfatty · 08/01/2007 00:13

affair. i could dump him and stil; be financially secure.

then i would fire a staple gun at his bollaux

TheArmadillo · 08/01/2007 00:14

Taking savings and online gambling would be unforgivable.

There is a possibility of recovering from an affair.

marthamoo · 08/01/2007 00:14

Why a spoon? Why not an axe?

Because a spoon is blunt, you moron, it'd hurt more...

(can you tell I was watching the delectable Alan Rickman in Robin Hood, Prince of Thieves yesterday?)

hunkermunker · 08/01/2007 00:15

LOL! Moo, that's just what I thought of when I posted it (not that I think he is delectable - he was in the same class as my dad at school and much as I love my dad, I don't fancy his peers ).

marthamoo · 08/01/2007 00:16

Your Dad must be very young!

VVVwhatever · 08/01/2007 00:19

Stop flirting with Hunkers dad, Moo!

hunkermunker · 08/01/2007 00:20

He's 61.

marthamoo · 08/01/2007 00:20

Does he still know Alan >?

marthamoo · 08/01/2007 00:21

Is Alan Rickman really 61? My Dad's 65. Suddenly I feel like a geriatricophile (I made that word up).

VVVwhatever · 08/01/2007 00:25

One step away from Necrophile....

Moo - control yourself.

Original poster
jasper · 08/01/2007 00:32

Ladies I have been away for a bit.
You are all fantastic....
have really cheered me up.

fwiw I could forgive an affair but not siphoning of the joint savings ( about £46.50)

My very rich friend did not mind so much about the savings but could not forgive the affair.

Funny old world

OP posts:
whatwouldjesusdo · 08/01/2007 00:45

the affair. I could persuade myself it was partly my fault, which would make forgiving him easier.

no way would I ever live with a gambling addict.

but then its not a fair comparison. I wouldnt live with someone who was addicted to having affairs either.

MamazonAKAfatty · 08/01/2007 00:48

no way is Alan Rickman 61!

i love AR. i really fancied him in Robin Hood

hunkermunker · 08/01/2007 00:49

61 next month - he's 2m younger than my dad!

MamazonAKAfatty · 08/01/2007 00:53

omg i feel like a right zimmerframe snatcher.

kama · 08/01/2007 01:08

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alipiggie · 08/01/2007 02:08

Joint savings - you can recover money. My heart's been broken into a million pieces by my h's affair and lying and deceit. Money so you're poor, but you can move on.

JodieG1 · 08/01/2007 08:43

Agree about the being able to recover from money, can't regain trust so easily. Seems odd that anyone would choose money over fidelity.