Do you think it's possible to meet the right person at the wrong time?

[ProfessorPickles]

Just thinking about something once said to me, not in a deep emotional manner just popped into my head all of a sudden.

It was said to me and I had quite a "what a load of shit" reaction to it.

What are your thoughts?

My initial reaction is that if they were right for you you'd be with them. Therefore right at the wrong time = wrong person surely?

I think that this is a question that can only be answered if you do get together in the end and all is great. Otherwise surely it's just wishful speculation and a dream?

I met someone years ago in my 20s who worked in the states but timing wasn't right, for whatever reason. There's always a spark whenever we meet (only every 10 years or so, though) but we both have our own lives now...but I do still wonder....especially as he has a house in the Hamptons these days!!!

There's always the fact that we could have been divorced acrimoniously by now, too....I'll never know, so I try not to think too deeply about it, and get on with my Hampton-less life here....

Yes. It's happened to me a couple of times. I met a wonderful man when I was only 15. He was 20 so it would have been sort of weird and irresponsible to be together, also illegal of course. But I absolutely adored him. I still think about him now. In fact I messaged him on FB last month to let him know he still crosses my mind from time to time and when I hear certain songs I think of him. But he has a long term girlfriend now and he's a different person, as am I. At that time though we were really good for each other, had I just been a year or two older .

Also my current OH. We were friends for months before becoming a couple because it just wasn't the right time to be together when we met. I'd just separated from exH and that was all up in the air, he wasn't in a good place emotionally either. So we decided to remain friends for months until it was the right time, now we're happy together.

There's lots of examples of it really. People meet someone they're super compatible with when they're married or in a relationship quite often.

I think yes, absolutely. I met my soul mate at age 20 and let him go after four years because i wasn't ready to settle down and wanted to live a little. I feel sure that if we met today, we'd fall just as deeply in love and be able to make it work with maturity on our side.