I've been with my partner for five years. We don't live together, no children, only see each other maybe once every ten days. He is a kind, lovely man who gets on very well with my adult children and I am sure he'd be horrified to know I felt so bloody angry with him...He WILL NOT engage with me physically, in any way, shape or form, to the extent of recoiling if I go to kiss him. No hand holding/sitting next to/snuggling up/kissing/hugging. But he still wants sex - after which we have to leap apart.
We don't have the best communication, if I try to raise issues he goes very quiet and acts all hurt, but, tbh, I rarely try now. We hardly ever talk at all, in fact, most of our time together is spent in front of the TV (and I bloody hate watching TV, but it stops us having to talk...). We got together very quickly after my marriage broke up, but he was affectionate at the start and used to hold my hand and everything. Now, when we go out for a walk, he walks four or five metres ahead (to the extent that people have started to comment). He's not very 'emotionally literate', very blokey, not been in many relationships (which has been the cause of other problems too...). So. How do I raise it with him that I am actually starting to feel like a prostitute (apologies to any working girls out there) - having sex with no intimacy?