I have something to talk about but not sure under which topic it comes under. I need some Mums advice regarding my husband and intimacy. We have been married three years and have a 22 month old and and 5 and a half month old baby, intimacy takes a back seat due to how young both our children are and the amount of time I give to them both. My 22 month old daughter is going through the terrible two's stage I.e mood swings, tantrums etc... and of course she's very time consuming when she's like this. I have both of my children in a bedtime routine which goes very well depending on my daughters mood, sometimes she takes longer to put to bed. I'm a stay at home Mum and with my children 24/7, my husband works 5-6 days a week and when he comes home I wait on him hand and foot aswell.
Mine and my husbands intimacy levels have reduced due to how time consuming our daughter is and by the time she's asleep and after all the running around I've done for my little family I'm usually very tired and just want to sleep when my husband initiates sex. I have obliged and most of the time give him what he wants regardless of how tired I am. I have on occasion said no and explained why which he used to accept however recently this has changed and he has become very resentful and angry towards me. He has threatened to physically harm and has hurt me in front of our daughter. He accuses me of not being intrested in him and has threatened that he'll go and find someone else to have sex with. I caught him once on webcam masturbating over a random woman after I had our daughter and he blamed me for being too tired to give him what he wanted and physically hurt me then
About two weeks ago he accused me of seeing other Men behind his back and called me a whore. I have access to social media but far too busy most of the time to go on there as I'm with our children. I'm a stay at home Mum, the only time I go out is with him, his Mum or when I take my daughter to toddler group other than that I don't go out.
I came from an abusive background, my father abused me from a child upwards so trust is a big thing with Me. When I first met my husband he was like a dream come true, my perfect match etc. ..... but now..... He says I'm not happy anymore and have issues, I have talked to him before and said if he keeps being nasty I will leave, I can't take anymore abuse and blame. I'm stuck in a rut and don't know what to do. I love my husband more than anything, he's and our kids are my life but he just doesn't respect me or love me the way he used too.... I need some advice