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kisses on the end of texts are you fickle or a habit kiss sender

58 replies

Tigger2016 · 03/03/2016 17:55

Had this discussion with a friend last night and think I'm
A habit ending a text with an 'x' person- what about you

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FredaMayor · 04/03/2016 08:51

I occasionally exchange work related texts with someone very high up in their field who always ends her messages with X or XX. I find it bizarre, especially since we have never met, so it's possibly an autosignature.

I only ever use X when I really mean kiss. Don't mind if you use this in your piece btw.

Trills · 04/03/2016 08:56

I enjoy emoji, but I don't sign off with X.

Maybe because most of my messages are not ones where I "sign off".

It's not a letter or an email that ends in "Love Trills x".

It's a sentence in an ongoing conversation. The conversation may continue a few second later or a few days later, but it's not finished, so I don't sign off.

Oysterbabe · 04/03/2016 09:07

DH and close friends only.

Amrapaali · 04/03/2016 09:35

Not a serial x-er. I always reciprocate with a smiley if I receive kisses. Just to be polite.

redfox2015 · 04/03/2016 09:57

All friends and family get two, cummon it's friendly not romantic
Never on a business mail though

pocketsaviour · 04/03/2016 10:18

I hardly ever do X's. If I'm texting DS yes, but only if it's like the end of a convo. As in "OK darling try to get some sleep now, I love you, XXX"

Also tend to send them to my sister but only if she's been ill or something. Like "How are you feeling today? xxx" If I'm just generally texting her then I don't tend to use them. She uses them all the time but she knows I don't usually reciprocate so it's not awkward.

I do use a lot of emojis.

UmbongoUnchained · 04/03/2016 10:22

I usually just copy how many kisses they send me. My friend thinks this is hilarious and always sends me a different amount to see if I do it!

TheOptimisticPessimist · 04/03/2016 11:02

It depends - a one off text to friends or family then yes (the number varies). If it's a text conversation thats more like online messaging then I don't bother.

LotsaTuddles · 04/03/2016 17:05

I do different to different friends too.

SiL gets 2, most friends get 2 or 3, another friend always puts 3, so I do too. DH gets a load that is a shortcut when I type 4, it's like a jokey thing, from once when we were talking about it and did it, was kind of like an "in joke" for a while, now it's just habit

Marilynsbigsister · 04/03/2016 17:16

At the end of a message to dh and dcs, always, it's habit . This didn't help when my 'habit' encroached on to a text to my boss. (Imagine a humour less grey, civil servant) mortified .

JayElleGee · 04/03/2016 18:40

Almost always with friends and acquaintances! Am happy to initiate an 'X' on a thread or text convo - but will soon stop if it's not reciprocated though. I think it's nice and friendly - but not for business communication - that's just weird (unless, of course, said business associate has made the cross over to acquaintance...) Gosh, hadn't realised how much of a fine art it was!

DianaTrent · 04/03/2016 20:19

I do with close friends and family, although not all the time, and do tend to reciprocate if others do it first, just because I don't want to offend, but I don't like it from anyone I don't know well.

Believeitornot · 04/03/2016 20:47

Best friends get "Xx"

Close friends get "x" (always lower case)

Dh gets a few

Friends get none

Work colleagues also none

tealoveryum · 04/03/2016 21:29

I'm habitual, but only to close family and friends. Not to work colleagues or acquaintances.

Fluffinator · 04/03/2016 21:57

Oh dear - like Marilynsbigsis I sent a text to my new boss ( humourless irritable grey type) with xx on. I screamed 'NO' out loud in the office too when I realised and attracted a few 'are you ok??'s Even worse when I explained to the sympathetic colleagues what I had done, one of them said ' oh no how embarrassing' - I then had to go and meet said boss for my first 1-1. Mortified was I. He obviously had received text as it was sent saying where I would meet him. I now fastidiously check every work/ related text now for habitual xxs...

tealoveryum · 04/03/2016 22:00

Fluffinator I've done that to my estate agent, who are terribly useless when it comes to managing a property. I had the 'no' moment too, followed by cursing.

Does anyone elses phone automatically try to add a kiss? Mine does because i use it so much i think.

simplydivine05 · 04/03/2016 22:08

Different rules for different people. DO gets one unless it's a mushy text in which case it's seven. My mum gets and sends loads on the end. My sister and some friends get two. Other friends get one or three or none at all. What I do find odd is when I get messages from customers or potential customers with them on. This is a daily occurrence from total strangers. I don't reciprocate as I don't think it is professional!

MumsTheWordYouKnow · 04/03/2016 22:52

Never used to do them till it became a trend and then it seemed rude not too. Now it's seems to have upped to 2 kisses to most are standard now. I know a couple of people who stand their ground and try to avoid it but even they do the odd one. It's like a few years ago saying regards at the end of an email at work, now we have to say kind regards which I find a bit weird but do as everyone else does it. Hate warm regards though sounds too fake.

springydaffs · 04/03/2016 23:37

Believeitornot

Best friends get "Xx"

Close friends get "x" (always lower case)

Dh gets a few

Friends get none

Work colleagues also none

Oh believe. Measure out your love why don't you Grin

I once read of a woman who had a cheque returned bcs she had signed it 'love Mary x'

BalenaSpiaggiata · 05/03/2016 12:32

Anyone I would greet with a kiss (cheeks not lips) gets one, I view it as a polite sign off rather than an actual kiss. Agree with reciprocal X-ing. I have one older brother who gets the hump if you text without a x yet the other who is a far more affectionate person doesn't even put them on texts to his wife (both in their forties). Regularly remind DP that always putting them on texts to his staff (mainly young girls) could be misconstrued and seen as the pervy old boss even though it's just habit, even his male friends get them

Onlytimewilltell · 05/03/2016 17:52

I put x's on everything, even quick paper notes to the teacher get an x!! Blush

chelle792 · 05/03/2016 20:12

It depends on what I'm saying. If it's just "be home in an hour" or "fancy meeting for lunch?" I never really put a kiss. If it's "how are you, haven't seen you in ages, i miss you!" it would be with a xx

Or a "hope you're doing ok" would be x

I have no idea why - I can't quantify which texts deserve one or two x's but there is a difference

Original poster
Tigger2016 · 05/03/2016 22:36

Did someone change the title of my thread

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HarrysMummy17 · 05/03/2016 22:43

I stopped putting x's and then got asked why I was being grumpy

kelper · 05/03/2016 22:47

I do it a lot on mine, i feel bad when i forget and the person I'm texting puts them on theirs.
Although i was replying to one of my dhs texts for him the other day while he was driving and put xx at the end 😂