Are there couples who really never argue?

[thefourgp]

I've been with my husband for ten years. We bicker a bit and have the odd argument every so often but on the whole I'd say we're content and happy together. I was talking to a friend about a night I'd recently spent watching tv and chatting away with my husband where we just laughed and laughed together all night. I thought it's great we can still do that after being together for a long time. My friend who's been with her husband for three years says they spend every night laughing like that together. She's also mentioned that they never argue which I'm not sure I believe. I can't think of any other couple I know who doesn't argue. At the end of the day my friend's happy, her husband is a lovely guy and I think they make a good couple so it's her business and not mine. I was just wondering if there really are couples who never argue? Is it because one person always backs down? Surely you can't agree with every single thing your husband or wife says/does? Thoughts? Xx

We used to argue, we used to have shouting screaming rows. We split up after 6 years together for various reasons. We both changed during out time apart, we matured and came back together as different people. We don't argue now. In the last year and a half we have had cross words probably twice. We have simply given each other a bit of space and then talked calmly again about the issue and put it to bed. There is no shouting, no screaming. I think the difference now is our ability to communicate and also the fact that neither of us are taking our relationship for granted any more. We laugh much more than we used to too.

Been together 16 years,we disagree on things but never had an argument

DP and I laugh everyday. He is the joker, not me!
We rarely argue.
We had to learn that we only argue if we're in the kitchen at the same time. So we don't go in the kitchen at the same time anymore, we alternate!

We discuss the things we disagree on but we can see each other's point of view so it never becomes an argument. We are both more pragmatic than passionate though.

Oh, and we laugh a lot too, we have similar humours.

We've been together 9 years and almost never argue.

We both dislike confrontation but also communicate well. If one of us is grumpy and snappy we always apologize quickly.

We've had 2 proper arguments and both were after sleepless nights with the DC (which considering DS1 didn't sleep through until aged 3 years and DS2 20 months, that is pretty damn impressive I think).

DH and I had our first shouting crying argument in about 8 months yesterday.
We had some mega rows when we first moved in together but after some serious chats (in therapy) we manage to keep a lid on our worst behaviour in rows without feeling censored.

We rarely argue but disagree a lot.

We never argue. We occasionally get snappy or irritated but we are both talkers and don't like rows. When I was pregnant I would argue with DH over anything- even if he didn't ever argue back. His life was a misery for weeks at a time. I am back to normal now and we just like being together and get on really well.

DH and I have never argued, we've been together for 8 years. Neither of us like confrontation and we don't have much to argue about really - we don't have many things that we both have to agree on, and neither of us are bothered much about what the other does (like spending money, staying out etc) so don't have any need to argue about that.

The stuff we disagree on is discussions on news/politics but we just put forward our points of view and then agree to disagree, no point in making an argument about it.

My partner and I rarely argue. I do remember him saying"OH, COME ON" when I slammed a door in a strop two years ago. We are both non-confrontational and a bit dull!

ExH and I rowed constantly. I hated it. And they were big rows. He would storm off or punch things. I would scream and shout.

DP had similar with his ex wife.

We have been together nearly three years, and have never argued. Granted we don't live together, but still. One disagreement a year ago, which because we communicate well was sorted out quickly.

And that's the key for us. We can talk to each other about anything and not feel judged or attacked or nervous of the other person. I will never go back to an arguing relationship

Oh and I know one couple who never argued.

But it wasn't a happy marriage. She was miserable. She just never challenged him on anything that upset her.

So ion not think not arguing is always proof a marriage is a happy one.

We don't swear at each other or argue. DH doesn't sulk and won't let me either and doesn't ever raise his voice.

DH and I have only ever had 1, maybe 2 blazing rows.
In general we don't really argue as such, we tend to bicker and bitch at each other over little things that don't really matter, and neither of us take it to heart!

I have had one argument with my wife (of 5 years) -it lasted 1 minute before we apologised to each other. It was on our wedding day. Ha.

I knew a couple just like that.

they never argued.

And then they divorced.

My mum and her sister always told me my grandparents never argued. They've been married for 65 years!

Been with DH 5 and a half years. Think we've had 2 shouty arguments in that time and we both cried afterwards. Disagreements occasionally but it's very very infrequent. We just tend to talk things through as we both find arguments upsetting! I know some people think we are boring for our lack of drama but different strokes different folks and all that...

We've only been married a year, but have been together for 5 and have a toddler. I dont remember ever having an actual shouty throwing insults at each other type of argument , but during the newborn phase we spent a long time at loggerheads because we were so tired, instead of joining forces against the baby

DH is very easy going and often will just put himself out for an easy life - but as a result of that I've become less demanding.

We dont argue. Doesnt mean we agree about everything but we have been together a long time so know each other's hot spots. In a row it is too easy to say hurtful things which can never be unsaid.

We genuinely didn't argue at all for the first nearly ten years of our relationship. The places we worked we so far apart, that it just wasn't possible to live in the same place. Looking back, it was because there was nothing to argue about, my place, my rules; his place, his rules.

After both changing jobs, hurrah, we get to buy a place together and suddenly it seemed that there was a low level grumble going on, on both sides, all.the.time. We both noticed, said we didn't like it and had a few good long conversations. Now, I am more careful about floating ideas in advance rather than just jumping in with 'lets ...' while getting started. Likewise, he takes the trouble to tell me when something doesn't appeal rather than not saying anything and hoping that it will go away. I think we have become more considerate and spend more time communicating. It is an overhead but a worthwhile one.

I'd be more interested in why your friend seems to want to up the ante all the time. You argue occasionally argue, they never do; you have a lovely evening having a laugh; they do that all the time. Tell her you have sex four times a day and see how long it is before she's having it five times a day!

Define arguing?
If you mean raised voices then no, never.
We have the odd bicker but nothing more than that. I really really hate shouting. I couldn't be with a man who shouted at me.
We have a young baby so we are tired and grumpy but we don't argue.

We've been together for a long time, live together, have kids, high stress jobs, the works. Never really argued.

We've had disagreements, we've upset each other, sure.. but it never goes very far I'll apologise or she'll apologise and we move on or just let it go.