Another porn story

[Bubblegum28]

Ok so I know this has been done before but I just need to get it off my chest. Went to use dh phone yesterday as mine was dead and discovered he had been watching porn. This has happened once before and when I asked him about it he blamed his nephew and said it must of been him. This was in my early pregnancy and he knew I didn't like it, he promised it wasn't him and he wasn't like that. I really thought he wasn't but there's no blaming his nephew this time as they haven't seen each other for months. I'm now 7 months pregnant and feeling very insecure about myself and my body, and knowing my other half is getting off looking at other perfectly shaped women really really upsets me I haven't said anything to him yet as I don't want an argument and I know a lot of people have different views on this but I for one do not think you should have to watch porn if you have a perfectly good relationship at home. Am I over reacting? It's not just that it makes me look at him in a while new light and at the moment I can't even bare him touching me

Fantasies about Flake bars?. Totally acceptable. No chocolate bars were harmed in the making.

Amen

Amen

Coke adverts, not had a good one of those in a while, for equality purposes ;-)

I think the figure is around 60-70% of all men. However, the younger you are the higher the %.

I watch porn and Anyfuckers question is a good one. Being honest, I believe that the porn I watch has willing participants who are their by choice.

Also if the porn is legal and on a reputable website then that's enough to convince most people that everyone involved is happy.

I get my porn from John Lewis Partnership. I tend to sleep easier then.

Also calling bullshit that "99.9% of men use porn." What the fuck did men do before the Internet age? Did 99.9% of men stash porn vids? Buy Porno mags? Or did they just quickly knock one out using their imagination? I am willing to bet plenty of men still use that option without wasting their time.

I am not willing to take that chance. Others may be.

Oops my response was to whatnow

david8341 I too have yet to meet a man that doesn't. There has been the odd denial over the years when the subjects came up I'm sure but it's not taken long to get an admission of guilt. Not something there going to confess to there wives though. We even had one suspended for looking at it in work while doing a bit o/t on a Saturday morning and if I ever had to pick one that I thought didn't look at it, I'd have said him.

I live in a country where young girls and children go missing get killed every day to satisfy the porn industry and the demand for prostitution.

Personally I could not respect any human being who watched that filth that causes so much human misery, and if that means I have to look for the exceptional 1% to hang out with, that is what I will do. In the end, when it comes to a partner or husband, you don't want 99% of men, you want a decent, thoughtful caring person.

But men and women do masterbate, and not always with their partner in mind.

It really irritates me when porn use is equated with masturbation or having sex or being sexual etc. They are not the same thing. Plenty of people enjoy a full and fun and healthy sex life without porn use. And quite frankly I think that using porn is negatively correlated with enjoying a full and fun and healthy sex life. You know? Actual real sex with a real person other than your own hand?

I pray we never reach a day where we are conditioned to believe and accept porn use in our every day lives, well because men just can't function without it.

Imagine that, accepting women being exploited as the norm and men being respected for using it.

Just because it's everywhere now with the internet doesn't make it any more palatable, I will never support such a grubby and coercive industry.

VOD, forgive the personal question but are you unable to masturbate without porn ? Have any kind of sexual experience that doesn't include it ?

Ultimately a man who watches porn will not stop if their partner tell them to. With smartphones etc, it easier than ever to watch porn without anyone knowing. So it comes down to how much an issue it is.

Whether it be infidelity, porn use, religion or voting Tory everyone has lines they don't want their partner to cross.

Ultimately a man who watches porn will not stop if their partner tell them to. With smartphones etc, it easier than ever to watch porn without anyone knowing. So it comes down to how much an issue it is.

Agreed, but this wasn't the case, was it? She didn't tell him, he chose to lie.

I agree with Blinder. The lying and use of it destroyed my relationship.

Yes it really did, whostolethesocks. But, thinking back, from the perspective of a relationship where porn doesn't feature, maybe that relationship with my ex was sick anyway, and the porn and lying were just the symptoms.

I'm not sure if I would mind if my current partner used porn, but that might just be because he doesn't seem to want to.

I think it is all about feeling wanted and desired. The problem is that desire ebbs and flows anyway in relationships. Whenever I have dealt with that by using porn myself, it's always felt like a kind of betrayal of my partner. But I can see how not everyone would feel that. Different strokes for different folks .

There's a sleaziness about it though. Total sleaze. Anyone into that stuff, in my opinion, is seriously emotionally challenged. I don't subscribe to the view that one's moral compass can be discarded on the altar of liberal or self indulgent entitlement.
I find myself actually sneering when they talk about the subject and avoiding them like the plague. Sad bastards.

I first discovered it in my ex when my child was around 10 months old so I was still feeling fat and frumpy as a new mum and undesirable. So the discovery of the porn use made me feel even more undesired and wanted. There was worse to come though :-(