I don't know what to do, I have no one

[Janeyat867]

I used to be so strong and independent why am I not now? I'm young, late 20s married just over a year. I can't look my H in the eyes, he's done many things, including talking to other women and deleting fb messages, then I decided to open a Twitter account and I followed him to find out 95% of his people he followed were females, exes etc. he watches porn whenever I'm not there. I found him browsing sex sites to buy prostitutes in our town. But he's so nice. He's such a nice man and father, am I just thinking too much?

Yes English is my first language? I have family I just don't see them or have a relationship I can 'talk' about anything to them. I have no friends, the ones I had we just drifted apart, busy lives etc. the people I work with I don't see as people I could 'talk' with at all either. So like I say there really isn't anyone....

It´s a shame your relationships with others have fallen by the wayside. Do you work more than 40hrs/wk? I just think nobody works that much that they can´t prioritize some time to catch up with family and tend to friendships....Maybe reconnect with old friends on FB etc?

Do your family/parents not see your child ever? I hope it isn´t down to your OH that you´ve let relationships with others drift, that´s all. Friendships take effort and need tended to regularly by both parties. It´s maybe a good idea to hook up with some people you´ve lost touch with, that you liked well enough, or try to develop a friendship with someone at work who you feel is on the same wave length.

You cannot just let your OH be the only significant person in your life whom you share confidences with. We can support on here but ultimately we are just strangers too, you need to work on gaining friendships with people in real life.

No I don't work anymore than maybe 30 at the very most, my relatives have my dcs some weeks but they don't really see me just for minutes while I pick them up etc, we aren't a very close family which has made me a very distant person in general. I speak to 1 friend but she has a big family and lots going on im just a really private person I don't like people I know knowing my business of that makes sense? I think I'd be fine being alone it's just the responsibility side of things with work !

Hope you are ok Janey. You'll think of something but at the moment it all seems too much. One small step at a time as you're probably in shock.

Yet again he's deleted history while I've been at work and every time he seems to have used his camera? I just don't know if I'm thinking too much