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a bit of an odd one...

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NappiesGalooooooooooooria · 28/12/2006 14:54

this is a bit odd, but i seem to feel as though i am being mis-read a lot of the time.... as though my facial expressions are showing a much more intense or extreme version of whatever emotion or feeling i am attempting to convey

  • ie, i am offered an item of food i dont fancy. i think 'mm, no, not what i'd like, thanks', wrinkle my nose a little and say something like "no thinks". other person sees my face say 'good god no, thats the most revolting thing ive ever heard how on earth could you even think of offering me that, you total bastard!!'

over family boxing day, was mistaken for feeling more tired/tense/annoyed than i actually felt a disturbing number of times.

so either; i need some practical tips on how not to show such expression on my face (botox??)
or; i am so repressed that i am feeling these emotions and im the only one who doesnt know it...

btw - i do realise i talk bollox sometimes

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mellowma · 28/12/2006 14:58

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lulumama · 28/12/2006 15:04

i have a very expressive face too......sod it..people will just have to get used to it..it means, however, i cannot lie !!! my DS and DD are the same, they have a heeeooge range of facial expressions...

don;t try to repress it! you'll either end up gurning because you are trying too haard to not show any emotion or looking like a you have turned to stone

no , no botox.......not in hump-sher, sweetie ! full bloody facelift , yes!!

DumDiddyDum · 28/12/2006 15:20

My facial expressions always get me in trouble especially at parents meetings at school. Where now i try to keep my hands infront of my face.

Just cant help myself when my whole face has a look of total disbelief at other parents questions in a school hall.
My face then reads

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NappiesGalooooooooooooria · 28/12/2006 15:20

oi! dont need a facelift just yet ta! (i am scowling really quite scarily at you now LOL)

oh, tis so good to hear its not just me!!

i was actually told by an artisty bloke once that he wanted to do a study of my face coz it was so hugely expressive, which i thought was really nice thing to say at the time, but it can be a pain sometimes too, no?? im about as subtle and disrete as a concrete block!

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lulumama · 28/12/2006 15:22

no..this is scowling..

much better scowlers ooop norf!!

LITTLEdonkeyFISH · 28/12/2006 15:24

I do this too! My worst expression is a very slight sneer with one side of my top lip, that just happens to my face when I hear anyone say anything particularly stupid. I don't even realise I'm doing it, even though it really is horrificaly rude!!!!!

hatwoman · 28/12/2006 15:30

interesting post as I have the other side of the experience - and it can be very difficult. dh frequently sounds/seems far more whatever than he actually is. It;s not so much his face, but his tone of voice and his body language. and it only applies to negative emotions - he can sound extremely scornful, dismissive, bored or cross, when he's actually only feeling it a little bit. It can make for a really bad arguments - it doesn't cause an argument but god it can aggravate one. I do find it very upsetting, although I have had years of trying to train myself to read him better - but it's very difficult. He'a aware of it - his mum used to berate him for it too. So - I don;t have any answers, I'm afraid, but quite some sympathy/empathy. and I'll keep an eye on the thread to see if anyone comes up with some magic tips.

hatwoman · 28/12/2006 15:30

dh talks lots of bollocks too btw

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NappiesGalooooooooooooria · 28/12/2006 15:35

LOL

this is great!! we should form a society - though we'd be shite at keeping it 'secret' (lol) - overly-expressive faces (not particulrly) anonymous!

and lulu - i may be refined and elegant now (snort), but i am originally a hard as nails cockney fruitloop, so dont write off my scowls just yet!

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NappiesGalooooooooooooria · 28/12/2006 15:40

oh goodness hatwoman. now you say that, i do it with dp too... often interpret a simple shrug as 'oh sod off you silly boring annoying little woman' when he actually, sincerely, means absolutely nothing of the sort!!

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beansprout · 28/12/2006 15:43

I can be guilty of this too. As a friend of mine once said "you have very loud thoughts....."

mellowma · 28/12/2006 15:44

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SenoraPartridge · 28/12/2006 15:56

ok, I'm going to sound like an even more annoying version of Pollyanna here, but I think you need to smile more. you can't wrinkle your nose and smile at the same time, and you can't scowl and smile.

can you think of something that makes you smile whenever the word "no" pops in your head or something?

jampots · 28/12/2006 16:01

i dont think i convey an exaggerated message using my face but hte tone of my voice apparently. Additionally, I always appeared sulky as a child and have lost count of the number of times people have told me to "smile"

I also talk bollox

SenoraPartridge · 28/12/2006 16:03

actually I overuse the tone of my voice too. but not as much as I used to. maybe that's because I became pollyanna.

never never never talk bollox though.

mellowma · 28/12/2006 16:03

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NappiesGalooooooooooooria · 28/12/2006 16:07

i dont know who pollyanna is... but i like my smile, so maybe ill give that a try...

might end up making people think im a bit of a loon with a screw loose tho... (random smiling at inappropriate times...)

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SenoraPartridge · 28/12/2006 16:08

I have to admit that people do think I'm a loon.

Pollyanna is a vomitacous disney film about a girl who keeps telling people to be "glad"

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NappiesGalooooooooooooria · 28/12/2006 16:09

oh i think my tone does it too...

cor - i sound like a right barrel of laughs, me!

(im quite hormonal today. well, thats my excuse and im sticking to it)

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DumDiddyDum · 28/12/2006 16:13

I can smile and still give the impression that the other person is anoying the pants off me...I do not have a web cam for this reason and that is also why i am in telesales.
I was useless when i worked in a shop as a teen. I love Jack Dee for his facial expessions, no words required.

SenoraPartridge · 28/12/2006 16:15

but there are so many other really good reasons not to have a web cam!

DumDiddyDum · 28/12/2006 16:15

Maybe we could use a Jack Dee smiley

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NappiesGalooooooooooooria · 28/12/2006 16:26

SP - reasons for webcams?? such as?? nice in theory, hideous in practice i think...

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NappiesGalooooooooooooria · 28/12/2006 16:28

dundiddy - isnt it?

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DumDiddyDum · 28/12/2006 16:48

Nappies it is a little of that and so much more. Sceptical , Means you dont beleive or is having or showing distrust. Not always the case. I dont like using it.
Except here to explain... i would like a
mixed with a and a little of plus a dash of when i realise that i have a face like all the lines on clapham junction.